Here’s the thing: you’re sitting at lunch on a double date and the couple across from you is head over heels in love, holding hands, and being gooey and gushy over their significant other. You and your significant other are sitting side by side, having a conversation about a childhood memory. The occasional hand-hold occurs, but generally, you’re pleasantly enjoying each other. There are more than two types of relationships and many ways to show your affection. Don’t judge your relationship on the terms of the couple across from you.
You shouldn’t need to compare your relationship. It’s yours after all and you are unique.
A first date could be a movie and dinner, a day at an amusement park or trampling in two feet of snow with a snowball in one hand and pizza in the other. How boring would it be to do the same exact thing as everyone else?
You may have known your S.O. for years, months or days before that first date. Everyone is on different levels, emotionally and physically.
Every person has had a different life leading to that first encounter. Every personality is different, and so are his or her culture, family, interests and background. The world isn’t cookie cutter perfect and neither is each individual.
Rough patches are expected. Your S.O. is getting to know you and vice versa. Because of that different background, reactions and how you process that information will be different.
It’s important to remember that everyone in the world is unique and that the people hugging and kissing across have met, dated, and shared in many different ways than you have. There is no perfect relationship, but do remember to be aware of an abusive relationship and the associated signs. Loving someone who hurts you intentionally multiple times is not worth your safety.
