I don't know if anyone has ever told you, "never live with your best friend because it will ruin your friendship."
When I first heard that, I was completely shocked and confused as to why that would be the case??
I mean, what person would not want to live with their best friend??
I saw it as sleepovers every night with non-stop laughing and late nights. I believe most people would picture it as such.
However, I have come to learn that my expectations have not been all that I expected them to be.
Living with someone is so much different than the usual three night long sleepovers you used to have with your friends on the weekends back in high school.
Back then, you were just using their space, but now you are actually sharing a space.
With that said, you each were raised differently on how to do certain things.
This is where the butting of heads comes in because we try to correct each other's ways of doing things, and it just leads to unnecessary arguments.
However, if you knew me then you would know that I do not actually argue. Normally, I just brush it off and try to hold my thoughts in.
I have come to learn that this is not how matters should be handled because now my patient is left running slim.
Since she is my best friend, I do know that if I was to express my thoughts that I would receive a smart comment back, so that is why I just choose to let it go.
Maybe, this is not the case for everyone or every friend, but it is just a fair warning that some people like things done their way or no way.
In my situation, this is exactly the case.
At the end of the day, we still have our good times and I am thankful to have learned from this experience.
Overall, I think it is worth toughing out because eventually, you will both understand the way each of you likes things done and will try to meet in the middle.
If this is the case for you, try to hang in there!
After all, they are your "best friend" so if they truly care about your friendship then they will communicate and work with you.
It may take time, but it shall come. If not, it was a lesson learned.
