Please Stop Asking What My Tattoos Mean

Please Stop Asking What My Tattoos Mean

Just because you get a tattoo doesn't mean you don't deserve privacy.
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It is no secret that the art form of tattooing is a growing concept. More and more people are getting tattooed every day and it's starting to become a society "Norm". However, have you ever been hit with the question of "What does your tattoo mean?" "Why did you get it?" "Why would you place it there?" All valid questions, but none of your damn business.

I personally have two tattoos, one is a geometric wolf and the other is a NYC skyline. Both of these tattoos have some very deep meanings. They all tie back to an extremely dark time in my life and they are my "battle wounds" if you will. They remind me that things got better and that I have to keep fighting. These are extremely personal tattoos. After all, I got them for myself, not for others.

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That being said, should you have to explain your tattoo? I'd say no. You paid for it, you chose it, and you know the true meaning behind it. Just because someone asks you what it means, don't feel inclined to answer. It's your business and no one else's. Now, if you feel comfortable enough with these people and want to share their meanings, by all means, go right ahead!

I know most people don't mean harm when they say that sentence, but it's just not something I have to tell you. Working in retail I get a ton of compliments on my tattoos and I thank the person and move on. Other times, I get the questions of "What does it mean?" Etc. I am not comfortable with telling strangers what they mean since I have zero connection with them whatsoever. I try not to be rude, especially while working so I make up some bullshit meaning behind that tattoo to mask the truth of what the tattoo really stands for. Should I lie? No. However, should I tell strangers my deepest darkest secrets? The answer is no. Sometimes a white lie is the easiest way out.

You might be asking yourself, "What should I say to someone who has tattoos and I like them, but don't want to pry into their emotional and private life?" I'd say the most simplest answer to this question is just say you like their tattoo. You don't have to ask why they got it or where they placed it. If you truly liked the work and wanted one for yourself, feel free to ask where they got it done and by who. 90% of people will be perfectly fine with telling you everything you want to know on where and who did the tattoo.

I know most people don't mean harm, but just because you get a tattoo doesn't mean you don't deserve privacy. Respect other people's decisions and their privacy.


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It's Time To Thank Your First Roommate

Not the horror story kind of roommate, but the one that was truly awesome.
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Nostalgic feelings have recently caused me to reflect back on my freshman year of college. No other year of my life has been filled with more ups and downs, and highs and lows, than freshman year. Throughout all of the madness, one factor remained constant: my roommate. It is time to thank her for everything. These are only a few of the many reasons to do so, and this goes for roommates everywhere.

You have been through all the college "firsts" together.

If you think about it, your roommate was there through all of your first college experiences. The first day of orientation, wishing you luck on the first days of classes, the first night out, etc. That is something that can never be changed. You will always look back and think, "I remember my first day of college with ____."

You were even each other's first real college friend.

You were even each other's first real college friend.

Months before move-in day, you were already planning out what freshman year would be like. Whether you previously knew each other, met on Facebook, or arranged to meet in person before making any decisions, you made your first real college friend during that process.

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The transition from high school to college is not easy, but somehow you made it out on the other side.

It is no secret that transitioning from high school to college is difficult. No matter how excited you were to get away from home, reality hit at some point. Although some people are better at adjusting than others, at the times when you were not, your roommate was there to listen. You helped each other out, and made it through together.

Late night talks were never more real.

Remember the first week when we stayed up talking until 2:00 a.m. every night? Late night talks will never be more real than they were freshman year. There was so much to plan for, figure out, and hope for. Your roommate talked, listened, laughed, and cried right there with you until one of you stopped responding because sleep took over.

You saw each other at your absolute lowest.

It was difficult being away from home. It hurt watching relationships end and losing touch with your hometown friends. It was stressful trying to get in the swing of college level classes. Despite all of the above, your roommate saw, listened, and strengthened you.

...but you also saw each other during your highest highs.

After seeing each other during the lows, seeing each other during the highs was such a great feeling. Getting involved on campus, making new friends, and succeeding in classes are only a few of the many ways you have watched each other grow.

There was so much time to bond before the stresses of college would later take over.

Freshman year was not "easy," but looking back on it, it was more manageable than you thought at the time. College only gets busier the more the years go on, which means less free time. Freshman year you went to lunch, dinner, the gym, class, events, and everything else possible together. You had the chance to be each other's go-to before it got tough.

No matter what, you always bounced back to being inseparable.

Phases of not talking or seeing each other because of business and stress would come and go. Even though you physically grew apart, you did not grow apart as friends. When one of you was in a funk, as soon as it was over, you bounced right back. You and your freshman roommate were inseparable.

The "remember that one time, freshman year..." stories never end.

Looking back on freshman year together is one of my favorite times. There are so many stories you have made, which at the time seemed so small, that bring the biggest laughs today. You will always have those stories to share together.

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The unspoken rule that no matter how far apart you grow, you are always there for each other.

It is sad to look back and realize everything that has changed since your freshman year days. You started college with a clean slate, and all you really had was each other. Even though you went separate ways, there is an unspoken rule that you are still always there for each other.

Your old dorm room is now filled with two freshmen trying to make it through their first year. They will never know all the memories that you made in that room, and how it used to be your home. You can only hope that they will have the relationship you had together to reflect on in the years to come.


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I Bought My First 'Big Girl' Purse And, Damn, I Feel Like A Badass

If you see me around with my Kate Spade purse feeling like a badass, mind ya business.

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To say that I am a big believer in the phrase, "treat yo self" is a complete understatement and anyone who knows me knows just how serious I encourage it to everyone.

Over spring break, I decided to take some of my advice and made two big investments.

The first one was my Canon DSLR. But we all knew that one was coming because I had been saving up my paychecks for months since last year and was ready to invest in something that would ultimately help me perfect a skill I had been wanting to learn for a while.

The other investment was a Kate Spade purse that even caught me off guard because I didn't exactly expect myself to want a purse. But you know that feeling of not knowing you needed something until you saw it? Well, that was me and from the moment I saw it, I knew there was no going back. So, I went into the store and dropped the money on the purse and just didn't look back at the impulsive decision I had just made, which was actually going against my New Year's resolution of being smarter with my money.

But you know what, treat yo self.

And if you expected me to feel bad about my purse, surprise! I don't feel bad one bit.

When I tell you I feel good about my purse and about myself with my purse, I am being so freaking honest. Now, I can't even picture myself without my purse. It might sound stupid, but it actually makes every outfit look better and makes me feel like a bad bitch.

Like the Carrie Bradshaw, the "Sex and the City" fashion queen, once said, "Balls are to men what purses are to women. It's just a little bag, but we feel naked in public without it."

So, if you see me around with my Kate Spade purse feeling like a badass, mind ya business.

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