Modern day women are striving to be considered equal to men. As a woman, I still see this struggle daily. It recently caught my attention the stigmas that women are still striving to keep "normal". For instance, I have a friend who has had a crush on a co-worker for weeks. She is constantly talking about how much she would like to ask this guy out, but she refuses. Her reasoning simply being that this is just not how society works, men are supposed to ask women out. But who made up this rule?
I asked a few of my male friends directly this past week, "Is it appropriate for a woman to ask a guy out?" These male friends are from all over Washington state and in no way know no one another. Below are a few of their direct responses.
"I say yes. Even though it is outside of the social norm to do so but because we are all human, if someone wants to express interest in someone, I feel that they should be able to do so. " - Hunter
"Its not wrong, because we both are responsible for our action and if a woman wants to date a man then she is more than able to ask the guy out. Same goes to guys, its not a one sided deal."-James
"I think it is, I actually like it because it shows they like you. Also they weren't afraid to let you know. As a shy guy, I prefer it. " - Jesse
"I think its appropriate. If a girl really likes a guy she should say it. I think in more recent times that things have changed where women ask men first...my relationship that i'm in now started with her seeking me out at work. She only used social media to find out who I was, and since she asked to hang out we have been seeing one another." - Nathan
"I don't see why not. Sometimes guys are too shy, or sometimes a guy belittles himself enough to think that a certain girl wouldn't like him. I think it would be more appropriate to mention a date to a guy, and see if does the asking. But I don't see anything wrong with the girl asking either." -Shane
"Yeah it's totally normal. I like a strong confident woman most of the time. I like to ask a girl out, but its not wrong to reverse roles. " - Connor
"I mean why not? It should go both ways."- Drew
"Yeah, in today's society, its absolutely appropriate for a girl to ask a guy out. I'm all for chivalry and for the guy asking a girl out, but there's nothing wrong with a girl taking matters into her own hands." - Joe
"Yeah I think its fine. It would be a little bit weird, but I don't think there's anything wrong with that." - Ryan
"There's nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy. It's cute." - Jordan
So as you can see, not one man said that it would be inappropriate, and all of them thought it was completely normal for the girl to ask a guy out.
So the question I am posing to women everywhere is, why do we feel that we still can't take charge?
This article is proof that men in modern day do not care who asks first, most of them find it attractive when a woman takes charge. If you are the girl sitting back waiting for a man to ask you out, I hope this inspired you to take charge. Go ask him out, what is the worst thing that could happen?
