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Why Can't We Be Friends?

Why do we intentionally leave people out?

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This is something I have always wondered, but have never really put into words. Why aren't people more inclusive? I'll truly never understand why people are so unwilling to make new friends sometimes. I'll never understand, really, why people are so exclusive about who they invite places, and who "makes the cut."

For me, I'm more of a "the more the merrier" type of person. I strive my hardest to never intentionally let someone feel left out. I always want to make sure everyone feels included because I would want people to do the same for me. Throughout life, I've always been this way, but I've experienced time and time again that people intentionally try to make people feel crappy by leaving others out.

I think my biggest encouragement to people would be to just include everyone when they can and should. It really doesn't harm you to have one more person tagging along, and you could be making that person's whole day. Strive to be different, and to be the person that always wants to make others feel better, not bring them down.

I think if we had more people who were willing to do this, the world would be a better place. If we all strived to make others feel better, we would feel happier ourselves. Now, I have been guilty of leaving people out before, too. Whether it was intentional or unintentional, I have left people out before and not been as inclusive as I should've been. Looking back on those instances now, I feel terrible. However, I don't really think I realized how this affects a person until I had a situation where I was left out later on.

In the end, I write this article as I realize my past shortcomings and strive to make a change in the future. I wish I hadn't made the mistakes in my past about leaving people out when I had, and maybe with writing this article more people will realize that we should strive to be friends with anyone we can be. In the end, it really does not harm you to have more friends, to be inclusive, and to possibly change that person's life.

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