Want to hear a quick one-word horror story? Relationships.
I used to dread them. I used to despise them. I used to not even believe in them at a certain point. I believed any hope of finding a good guy just didn't exist, and I wasn't necessarily in a rush, but I guess from what I've seen in my lifetime, it just seemed hard to find someone that genuinely gave half a shit about you. Well, now I'm sitting here writing about the complete opposite thing. Ironic, right? Silly me, changing my perspective about guys in an 180-degree direction. I had the worst luck for some time, and just kinda gave up. It was right when I stopped looking, though, that I found someone worthwhile. Some people don't think they should be thankful for that, or maybe some people just aren't grateful enough. But if you've got a great guy by your side, you should feel lucky.
In a generation where relationships are taken for granted, where both sexes want “flings” rather than “things”, and where nobody’s happy but they stick it out because they don’t want to be alone, I have a hard time understanding why a woman wouldn’t appreciate the HELL out of a faithful, amazing man.
I guess there’s something about those raunchy, trashy, douchey men that honk their horns when they pick you up for the “date” that you pay for yourself for… at McDonald’s. Sound familiar? Unfortunately, many of you don’t see what’s wrong with that situation. First off, honking rather than a classy knock on the door and hello to her parents has become common (and for whatever reason, completely okay) during a date. Well, that’s IF the guy is even willing to pick the girl up, right? I’m all for equal rights and I’m super cool with meeting my boyfriend somewhere for a quick drink and paying for myself and he pays for himself… most of the time. But, often, that’s the norm. I think us, as females, can admit that we really, really appreciate the dates where we get picked up a little thought is put into it. Maybe I’m old fashioned. As for those of you with the other mindset that I have, it’s even okay for it to be the other way around - pick him up and take him out once in awhile. Nothing wrong with that. A relationship isn’t about it all being on the guy, but guys are being let off way too easy and for some reason women are totally okay with this without noticing what’s really happening. After several years of dates, meeting guys out, all that fun guy and girl stuff, I’ve learned one thing - good guys are REALLY, really, really hard to find. Not that a lot of guys aren’t good. But when I say a good guy, I don’t mean super muscular with a sweet sports car with a perfect family and perfect this and perfect that with no flaws that picks you up and constantly spoils you. No, I’m not talking that. I mean the good guys as in, the ones that will say hello to your parents and have a small talk with them while you’re still getting ready. The good guys that genuinely care about you and your feelings, rather than putting their own first 24/7. The good guys that, when you pick a fight, hug you and don’t fight back. Yeah, I’m not perfect. I fight. I argue. I get mad. I’m not the best looking. I have flaws, like everyone does. But the thing is, I’m very grateful that my boyfriend accepts me, which, yeah he should. He’s my boyfriend. But, it’s not abnormal if he would want me to change, which is kinda sad to think about. But seriously, you’ve been through that before, I’m sure. I have many times.
You should thank a great boyfriend for being a great boyfriend because we live in a world where nobody thinks they have to be decent, they think the world just owes them something. You should thank a great boyfriend for being a great boyfriend because chivalry and small, meaningful words don’t come around very often without him. You should thank a great boyfriend for being a great boyfriend because even though you’re not perfect, he doesn’t just leave you, he gets that you love his imperfections, and he loves yours as well. To him, nothing about you is imperfect, and vice versa. That’s how it should be. If you want to know if you REALLY have a good one, you’ll want to be an even better person, because you won’t want to let him down. Isn’t that somebody that’s worth thanking? Someone who has been so wonderful and inspiring to you, that you think to yourself, “I’m not great, but he makes me feel great, so I’m going to be great.” That is a very good reason to thank your boyfriend for being a great boyfriend.
You should thank a great boyfriend for being a great boyfriend because he introduces you to his family. He’s proud of you, and wants to bring you into a part of his life that is personal. You should thank a great boyfriend for being a great boyfriend because when your anxiety acts up or you find yourself sad for whatever reason, he can calm you down just by letting you vent to him and he won’t complain once.
You should thank a great boyfriend for being a great boyfriend for a billion reasons. I wish I had enough breath to give my boyfriend all the thanks in the world and more for the many things he does every day that keep me sane, make me feel loved, show me he cares, and countless other things that I just don’t find myself entitled to. Nobody is entitled to kindness, nobody is entitled to anything. Hence, why people can be so cruel sometimes and get away with it. That’s just the way things work, unfortunately. But when you have someone great come along and they are everything you’ve ever wanted in someone and more, you should thank them for being the way they are, because they don’t have to be that way. They WANT to be that way. So, thank your boyfriend for being a great boyfriend. Thank his friends for being good influences, his parents for raising him well, his siblings for supporting him - everyone that’s been influential to him. We find ourselves relatable to the ten people we most surround ourselves by, so the people your great boyfriend has surrounded himself by have obviously had some positive influence on him. I can say my top ten people have surely changed me for the better.
When I even think about reasons why you shouldn’t thank someone that wonderful, I ask myself, “Why not?” Because, what better way to spread love and kindness in the world besides letting those around us know how great they are? By appreciating them? Again, you are not entitled to kindness. If people are kind to you, that’s up to them. If not, that’s also up to them. I’ve had my fair share of guys that were half decent but didn’t want to accept me, or that told me my flaws, or that never introduced me to his parents, or whatever else. Now, I have somebody who’s only flaws include being too kind (is that even a flaw?) and liking ice cream as much as I do (Idk if that’s a flaw, either). So, even his flaws just make him more awesome to me. If you can act goofy around each other without a care, you've got a great boyfriend. If you feel sometimes like your relationship is like a fairytale, you've got a great boyfriend. If you can get through the best and worst times together without a problem, you've got a great boyfriend. Yeah, relationships will have ups and downs and disagreements and whatnot. But, if you go to sleep every night with a smile on your face and wake up with someone on your mind every morning, you’ve got a great boyfriend. He deserves a thanks.
