If every bone in your body is screaming at you to get out, to leave, to distance yourself – listen. There are times when you want to make something work and for the life of you, it just doesn’t happen. Nothing you say makes the situation better, nothing you do can fix it because it’s never enough to make the other person(s) happy. And at this point, this relationship and friendship is more of a burden that you drag around throughout the day on a daily.
At this rate, the relationship is causing you more harm than good or happiness.
We stick around because we think it’ll blow over, or because “we have been through so much together.” Pardon my French – but that’s bullshit. And everyone and their grandmother knows that.
We stick around because we’re not convinced that we deserve to be treated better by our friends and/or significant others. We stick around because we cling to the happier memories that we pray and plea will come back, the better memories that we pray we never forget because, at this point, they’re our lifeline. We are literally clinging to it for dear life, hoping that it is enough to get you to stay just a little longer until things “get better.”
“We accept the love we think we deserve” – famous most painful line I’ve ever heard, but the meaning and truth behind this line is what makes it so painful because deep down we know we’re settling for second best. Shoot, third, or fourth best even. We know we deserve so much more but choose to neglect those feelings that are practically screaming at us to “leave” or to “walk away.”
You pray and you pray for a sign, for a signal to point you in the right direction, and when you get it, you ignore it under the excuse that “it won’t happen again,” or “they really didn’t mean that.” My dear, it will happen again, and if they had the courage to say something, they DO mean it and chances are it had been lingering around in their mental to say it out loud and to your face.
Some people are meant to be in your life until you croak; others are a passing fancy here to teach you an important life lesson. Maybe they stay in your life, hidden in the shadows or they disappear completely leaving only the memories you share – negative and positive.
Leaving a friendship or a relationship behind is hard – and that’s an understatement. These people take a little piece of you with them in their departure, whether it’s a voluntary departure or not. They don’t know this, but you do, and you’ll feel it everyday for a while and then slowly it’ll only be a thought in your head every so often.
You are worth so much more than what you think. You are worthy of wonderful friendships that won’t make you feel like shit or that your life doesn’t amount to theirs. You are worthy of a relationship that won’t have you second-guessing the things you say because it might anger the other person, you deserve a love that doesn’t make you feel like you’re walking on eggshells.
