As I was reading the book Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky, the quote "we accept the love we think we deserve" stood out to me as people choose their worth in the people you surround yourselves with at times. The book revolves around a high school boy who is dealing with finding acceptance through others in high school. He goes through finding and losing friends, mental states of not accepting himself, and then at the end of the book he reconciles with his past traumas and decides to live his life to the fullest.

We may feel not worthy of love so that can make it easier to attract people that may not treat us right. If you respect yourself, then others will too. And I'm not stating the cliché you must love yourself before anyone else has to because you deserve love in any state you are at in your life. You can be worthy of more love than you are receiving even if you feel that you don't deserve it.

We take for granted the love we have in our life and the love we give off to others. We go by our daily routines and forget to express our feelings to people. How will someone in your life know how you feel towards them if you don't express it?

There are big factors in unhealthy relationships such as:

You are being or are involved in an emotional or physically abusive relationship. The person belittles you, physically hurts you, or isolates you.

You are being cheated on and that has broken the trust, but you repeatedly forgive and stay with the person.

You compromise too much of yourself and feel that you must change for the other person to accept you. You feel that you cannot be your true self around this person.

You feel that you have this obligation to this person even though they may bring you down and not supportive of bettering yourself.

Being aware of how you have viewed relationships and the type of people you surround yourself and how they all treat you or make you feel. Get in tune with your intuitions, because most of the time what you feel in that situation is true to you. If you do not feel that you can be yourself with this person but you're stretching to change yourself around them to be more comfortable then maybe the person is not right for you.

You are not going to vibe with everyone you meet. We also compare ourselves to others and believe that our worth is the value that people treat us. Break that idea from your mind and open your heart to new possibilities. You are always growing and changing, and perfection does not exist, so you make yourself a high priority and the rest should follow. You deserve respect, compassion, and awareness from the people in your life so do not give up on seeking the love you actually deserve.