I Am A Server And I Tip Based On These 3 Rules

I Am A Server And I Tip Based On These 3 Rules

I believe that most, if not all, servers deserve 20% because there are a lot of things that go on beyond the table that we as the guest don't ever realize.


I have been in the restaurant industry for the past three years. I don't work at the fancy "boujee" steak or Italian joints in which twenty percent is normally a crisp twenty dollar bill or more. I work at your run of the mill fast family friendly joint. Places where people are very much angry when they have to wait at the door, the table, or both. As a human being, I understand that innate desire that when you go out you want your experience to be perfect or just at least at a relaxing pace.

However, as a server, I know there are times where I can just not give you that perfection. I'll admit it half the time it is on me and the other half it is not. But you try having six waiting tables, half of whom are patient and understanding of your stress level, the other half not so much, the kitchen backed up possibly understaffed, thirty minutes wait at the door, managers seeming to be nowhere to be found when you need something comped fast, waiting for your bar drinks from the bartender who has a full bar, and making dang well sure nobodies drinks, chips, fries, etc. run out.

It seems like it is the easiest job in the world from the outside but once you've been on the inside you know that there are ways to tell that a server is working their hardest or hardly working. So with that in mind, as a server, in my opinion, your servers are not automatically supposed to be granted twenty perfect or more just for breathing.

1. Free Refills = Refills 

Sip On Your Drink All You Want, I Will Refill It!


Honestly, this is one of the simplest things on the grading scale with me. When I was much younger I was much more active and needed a lot of water. So I understood when my glass would get empty and stay that way for a while. I still understand that sometimes when at a restaurant your glass will go empty. Still, as a server where free refills are expected do not let my drink sit empty too long because I will not be happy with you.

It is not like I expect the Flash to come dashing his way over the minute I slurp the last bit of liquid up my straw but I do expect that it will eventually get refilled. If I have finished off my drink prior to ordering or a little afterward and sit through my whole meal and only get refilled once the check is on the table...I am definitely DINGing you. I give you a "notch" down from twenty percent.

That will likely earn fifteen percent with me if it is that bad. Otherwise, upon the minor offense, it doesn't matter too much to me. If you think about it though it is not that hard to walk past your table every now and then to check on their drink levels especially when most restaurants have pitcher or water and ice tea you can just grab and take with you in case your guests may need more.

2. Personality 

Make Sure You Have Some Flair - You're Never Fully Serving Without A Smile


I don't know about you but I tip a little more even if the service was bad if my server has a personality. For instance, I am a pun girl...get it puns it rhymes with fun so I am saying I am a "pun" girl which most say I am a "fun-" okay, I am sure you get it.

I worked at Red Robin for a time and I loved to incorporate as many puns as possible. So, for instance, the cylinders the fries come in have no bottom hence the "bottomless" fries. (For more comic relief even say "bottomless" fries like the drumroll when giving jokes. Trust me it kills.) I firmly believe if your guests are laughing, joking around, and smiling with you simply put you are doing your job right.

That person deserves twenty percent.

I understand though that some people don't enjoy the jokes and just want me to bring on the food hold the whimsical fun personality. I know some people after a long day just want to go out and eat and find the whimsy annoying. To them, I say tip me anyways. I am trying to bring out the bubbly human within you. A server that is flat, boring, annoyed by me the customer, or when I the customer makes a joke doesn't even fake a laugh for me gets a little ding in my heart. I've been in their shoes and even if you've worked a double or a "clopen" (close and open) that never means you take it out on your customer. Always always always be nice to the customer, even if they are the lowest of humans. It can be hard sometimes to bring on that swagger but if you want your tip you really need to work for it!

3. Honesty 

Isn't This A Golden Rule? Like Just Do It Okay?


Ever experienced an unbearably long wait for your food? Most have and most people will at some point in their lives. I want an honest server in these moments! Simple honesty goes a far, far longer way with me than lies or simply ignoring me ever will.

Before we order or even while we are waiting if the kitchen is slammed let me know. Especially if you know beforehand since it may cost you a table but it won't cost you a tip in the long run. If it is the kitchen's fault tell me because I won't take it out on you if they over/undercooked my steak and you simply are getting it fixed for me.

I don't really take it that bad out on you if you rang in the wrong thing and are fixing it for me. Just simply let me know. Honesty is and will always be the best policy. Communicate with your table and they should always treat you in kind. Walking past them or avoiding them all together just creates worry, concern, and in some cases anger all of which means a dwindling tip. Also if you lie to a table and they find out...it could also mean your job so let's just keep the honest train chugging along, shall we?

That is it for me. The job is hard...but it really is not that hard. I get that since I have been doing it for over three years. I've seen a lot of great meals and I have seen a lot of horrible nightmare scenarios. As a server, we are there to give you a good experience and a good meal in order to do that we walk briskly with a smile on our face tackling a lot of questions and dilemmas along the way. I believe the good ones deserve to be tipped because their time is worth it. However, the bad ones while they still deserve something it definitely is not twenty percent or above.

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15 Reasons Chick-fil-A Is The Best Fast Food Chain In America


Chick-fil-A is my favorite fast-food chain ever, and I'm sure it is other people's favorite as well. I love food, but I also love Chick-fil-A's values and many other things that make it stand out from the rest of the fast food chains in America.

1. The employees

Chick-fil-A employees are some of the nicest people who will ever serve you. They always greet you and make sure you're taken care of. They're always willing to take your trash, refill your drinks, and have a conversation with you. They are quick with giving you your food and always make sure you have everything you need to thoroughly enjoy your meal. They stand out compared to other fast food employees and seem to be having the time of their lives while working.

2. Their values

Chick-fil-A is a Christian-based fast food chain, recognized by their rule of being closed every single Sunday. According to the Chick-fil-A website, "Our founder, Truett Cathy, made the decision to close on Sundays in 1946 when he opened his first restaurant in Hapeville, Georgia. Having worked seven days a week in restaurants open 24 hours, Truett saw the importance of closing on Sundays so that he and his employees could set aside one day to rest and worship if they choose - a practice we uphold today." Although I crave Chick-fil-A most Sundays, I appreciate and respect it.


Everyone goes to Chick-fil-A for the food. Their chicken is the best chicken I have ever ate and definitely worth the price. The waffle fries are superb, as well as their salads and milkshakes. The Chick-fil-A sauce is life changing. Cathy stated, “Food is essential to life, therefore make it good" and the food is great.

4. The cleanliness of the restaurant

Every time I have walked into a Chick-fil-A, the place is spotless. The dining area and bathrooms are always so clean and fresh. You can tell the employees work hard to keep it clean and we customers appreciate it.

5. Free food

Chick-fil-A is always handing out free food coupons or having a special days where an specific item is free. As a college student, those are the best days and those coupons are probably the most valuable thing in my wallet.

6. Lemonade

I'm going to be honest. I always order the lemonade from Chick-fil-A, then get three refills throughout my meal. Shoutout to Chick-fil-A and their free refills because I will always take advantage of it when I drink the lemonade. It's just that good.

7. Their breakfast

Chicken for breakfast sounds a little funny, but honestly it is one of the best breakfasts out there. You can get chicken on a biscuit, standard breakfast sandwiches, breakfast burritos, or my personal favorite: their hash browns. I would definitely recommend stopping by for breakfast.

8. Drive-thru

Chick-fil-A has one of the fastest drive-thrus ever. Even when they are slammed with 30 cars, the lines flies by. My food has always been hot when I receive it. So, don't give up on the drive-thru when the line is long.

9. Milkshakes

Still hungry after a full meal? Buy a milkshake. They're hand-spun and some of the best snakes out there. Totally worth the extra calories.

10. It's healthy.

Chick-fil-A makes you feel like you're at a sit-down restaurant. Everything is so clean and their employees are so nice. Your food is brought out to you and your trash is taken from you when you're done. It is "fast food" with the feeling of a sit-down restaurant.

12. The Original Chicken Sandwich.

Without Chick-fil-A, who knows how long it would it be before we discovered chicken sandwiches. Chick-fil-A is the first company to create the chicken sandwich. Thanks to them, we understand the deliciousness of chicken between two slices of bread and buns.

13. National Cow Day.

I think the most hilarious thing Chick-fil-A does is celebrate National Cow Day. On that day, customers can dress up as a cow and get their entire meal free.

14. Chick-fil-A cares about their customers.

And it definitely shows whenever I go to a Chick-fil-A. They train their employees to help customers with anything you can think of. Their food is fantastic (and sometimes free) and keeps getting better and better. Thanks Chick-fil-A!

15. "Eat More Chiken"

Enough said.

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What I Thought Was Just A Job Ended Up Giving Me Something Much Better Than Money

It meant so much more than just a first job.


Before I started college I had never had a job. It's no secret to anyone that college is a tad bit expensive, and when I showed up on campus my pockets immediately felt more empty than I'd ever know they could. My first week I attended a campus job fair without any idea of what kind of job I was searching for. On the suggestion of a friend, I visited a booth for the college IT department where (spoiler alert), my future bosses were sitting. IT is not my major, and I had absolutely no experience with computers. I was a referenceless, immature eighteen-year-old and to this day I'm not completely sure why they hired me. But somehow in my interview, I managed to convince them I wouldn't be a total screw up, and they took a chance on me. I am forever grateful they did.

When I started the job, I expected it to be something I clocked in and out of, showing up only for the paycheck. I didn't expect to gain anything more than the ability to continue funding my college experience. When my training started I was immediately overwhelmed by the sheer amount of information being thrown at me and began wondering if all the effort for just a part-time job could be worth it. I thought about quitting, or more aptly thought I would get fired, every single day my first month. Looking back, I know if I had quit then I would have missed out on three years of being shaped into the person I am today.

Working in that IT department taught me so many lessons that I could never hope to list them all. This job got me over my extreme discomfort with talking on the phone. It showed me how to find worth and value in something I may not be passionate in. This job gave me a skill set and confidence in those skills I never imagined I could have. It proved to me that amazing managers really do exist, and because of the bosses, I had there I am determined never to settle for supervisors who don't care about me as an individual.

But most of all what this job gave me were some of the most amazing friends I could have asked for. My greatest worry coming into college was that I would be unable to create sincere, meaningful friendships. For my first two years, I struggled with the kind of loneliness I had expected to. Then the summer after my sophomore year, I got scheduled to work with three people who I can no longer imagine my life without. We worked the closing shift together every night of the four-month-long summer, and by the time August came around, I was no longer worried about the upcoming semester being as lonely as those in the past. The friends I met through that IT job are adventurous, hilarious, intelligent, and as genuine as they come. While I no longer work in the job, our friendship has become even stronger. Those relationships I formed were worth more than any paycheck I could have received.

So as you're looking at taking a new job, or facing another long shift at the job you're currently in, remember that just because it isn't in the field you're pursuing or it isn't the job you hoped for, it is still important. You can learn something or get something positive out of every single opportunity you have. Every job you have can help make you into a better person if you let it. It can bring you so many friends you never expected to have.

And to the girl considering taking the IT job I say: go for it, and remember that even though not every job will change your life, any job can.

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