When You Love Yourself First, Everything Else Falls Into Place

When You Love Yourself First, Everything Else Falls Into Place

Self-Love Is The Best Love
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” — Buddha

Self-love is a concept that I believe has grown in popularity over time, especially in this last year. It is probably one of the most challenging concepts to grasp as well because people are so critical of themselves that they forget that loving who they are is OK and it is much needed. I personally believe that in order to be loved by someone else, you have to first learn to love and accept yourself and all your flaws, hence the term "self-love."

Most people try to fill this void by searching for love and attention from others, which is the worst way to do it, but we have all been there. I know I have and it is so easy to get sucked back into that place, but you have to constantly remind yourself that you cannot search for love in other things or people. I recently saw a post by someone that read "Self-love, self-respect, and self-worth. There is a reason why they all start with self, you cannot find them in anyone else" and it really struck a nerve with me because of how accurate it is. We seek all of these things, but forget that we have to look at ourselves for the answers, not others.

Now, self-love looks different for every individual. For some people, it could mean going to the gym every day. For others, it could mean letting go of toxic people in your life. The end result is the same, however, which is doing things to make YOURSELF unbelievably happy and not anyone else.

You could even make the attempt to talk about yourself in a positive light and be more conscious of the way you speak about and to others. The way you love yourself should be no different than the love and attention you give to others in your life.

Once you start to develop self-love, the less you will turn to others for instant gratification. The only love and acceptance you truly need are from yourself because that's all that matters at the end of the day. Whether or not other people do shouldn't matter. As the lovely Buddha once said, you deserve your own love and affection just as much as anyone else, so don't ever feel guilty about doing so.

Of course, there are going to be some days where you may find it difficult to love yourself. We all have our fair share of ups and downs, but that's OK. You aren't perfect and no one is, but you can forgive yourself and simply focus on the little things. You have the ultimate power to do whatever you want with the one life you were given and can change it at any minute. So, remember to cut yourself some slack once in a while and embrace the person you are and the person you will be as you continue to grow every single day.

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The Best Tips For Acne-Prone Skin

You already have a stressful enough life, do you really need pimples too?

As If life is not hard enough, it throws another struggle. A...Acne? Yes, acne. The wonderful red marks that tell the world, I had extra bacteria on my face, and well, now it is like this. We all know how frustrating it can be to have a face full of pimples, here are some tips on how to work towards a clear face.

1. Be educated on medicine types.

The two most known kind of acne fighting medicine are Benzoyl Peroxide and Salicylic Acid. A big part of knowing what will work for you is knowing what each does. Benzoyl Peroxide gets rid of the dirtiness and harmful substances within your pores by causing the skin to dry out and peel. When Salicylic Acid sheds the outer layer of your skin, it helps unclog pores but does not kill bacteria the way Benzoyl Peroxide does.

2. Expect the worse.

Once you know the types of medicines, it is time to choose a face wash, then (optional) a topical medication for some added cleanliness. Remember, it is not all rainbows and butterflies when picking the products that you use, and new allergies can begin at any time. It may take a while for you to find which products work best, but in the end, it is worth it if it means skin you feel confident in.

3. Wear breathable makeup.

Makeup can be worn in many different ways and by using many different products. A lot of people enjoy wearing makeup, but it can be a problem when it causes acne. Thicker (heavy coverage) foundations tend to seep into your pores, although you may be thinking: “why is this not good? It is filling up the pores so bad oils and dirts cannot get in?” Remember that some of the healthiest things for your face are the natural oils your face produces on its own. If you absolutely have to (we have all been there) I recommend something lighter, such as a mineral powder like Maybelline New York and Bare Minerals sell. Products like those will not make it look as if a pimple is not there, but it will take the color away. If you feel like you need thicker makeup, go for Neutrogena's makeup line. Although it is pricey, most (if not all) of the makeup contains Salicylic Acid, which will help your face combat acne all day long!

4. Change your pillowcase frequently.

I know this may sound silly, but yes, having a dirty pillowcase may be causing your acne. You use a pillowcase for at least 7 hours a day, that is 7 hours for dirty bacteria to make its way into your pores, it will end up in a breakout. Some other things you should do frequently, disinfect your phone screen, use paper towels to dry your face off with (used hand towels spread more bacteria, and laundry detergent left in new hand towels can cause irritation) and throw your hats in the washer. Try not to touch your face at all if possible, the dirt from your hands can transfer on to your face and that will end in acne. For this reason, remember to always wash your hands before going to touch your face to wash it. These may sound silly, but I am telling you, they make a world of a difference.

5. Drink lots of water.

Believe it or not, like everything in this world, diet and water have a lot to do with acne. It is proven that when someone eats less junk food their face is generally clearer. A disclaimer though is that there is no official proof that things like pizza and chocolate cause acne.

6. Keep a schedule.

Know when you are going to go through your acne routine a day. Will it be once a day? Twice a day? Set an alarm on your phone for every day and every time you want to go through your skincare routine. For beginners, I strongly recommend trying out everything that is new once a day, then changing it to two times a day when your resistance goes up. The schedule is tedious at first, but once you get the hang of it you will not even need to think about it again.

7. Know your limits.

This one mostly comes with time, but know that you can not get a new face wash, wash your face 3 times a day and expect acne to be gone tomorrow. Treat face washes and topical medication as real medication, begin in small doses and gradually get larger. An example I have here is, I know that I am allergic to Benzoyl Peroxide, therefore I cannot use it every day or any day at that fact, so I stick to only Salicylic Acid and now tea tree oil (a natural alternative of Benzoyl Peroxide).

8. Feel confident regardless.

Remember that you are a beautiful and badass woman or man. Acne is natural, just like love and sex, If someone does not love you because of your acne, dump them.

9. Do not forget moisturizer.

Moisturizer is so important when it comes to acne because many of these products will dry out skin. Throw some on after using your topical medicine and your face will never be peeling from how dry your face is.

10. Get motivated.

Set your goal and achieve it. Nothing (especially acne related) is going to be resolved overnight. Decide quickly that this is something you are going to do and you are going to stick to. Set alarms for the one or two times a day you should be washing your face, always remember to get out a new towel to dry off your face with, and never forget the topical medication!

Take some of these tips and try it out for yourself! Remember if you have hit rock bottom: there is such thing as a pill to take that will get rid of your acne, but there are a lot of side effects. Do not get on those meds unless completely necessary. Best of luck to you on this rough journey, I hope my suggestions helped!

Cover Image Credit: Dr. Bailey Skin Care

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