Self-Love Is Shown In the People You Carry Around You

Self-Love Is Shown In the People You Carry Around You

I’m here to tell you that momentary happiness isn’t self-love, and sadly that is what most of us strive to have in our lives.

Self-love is a concept that is often desired, but rarely explained to us what it means. Many people believe self-love is buying yourself a new outfit or counting the likes you get from posting your Instagram picture.

I’m here to tell you that momentary happiness is not self-love, and sadly that is what most of us strive to have in our lives. In society today, we often settle for instant gratification instead of looking deep within ourselves to find out what truly makes us happy. To fully accomplish self-love, we need to ask ourselves who we were, who we are, and who we want to become, and acknowledge that we still have so many experiences to learn and grow from.

A form of self-love can be seen in the people you carry around you. The friends in your life are the greatest reflection of you, which makes it pertinent to surround yourself with loving, genuine people. Taking someone out of your life because they don’t serve a concrete purpose isn’t wrong or selfish. There are going to be people you encounter in this world with the desire to break you, and only you can decide whether or not you are going to allow them.

They’ll be the individuals who only smile in the face of your failure, frown during your successes, and take far more than they could ever give. Keep an eye out for these people; they will drain your positivity for themselves, in the hopes that you turn out as less than what you are capable of being.

Beautiful souls are essential; even on the coldest of days, warmth can be found in the people around you. The ones who constantly motivate you to be your best self will be the people that further you down your journey of self-love. To fully endure happiness, surround yourself with a positive atmosphere and radiant souls who constantly build you up. I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to keep these diamonds in your life when the world is full of rocks.

By acknowledging who we were, who we are, and who we want to be, we can successfully determine who we want to surround ourselves with in our daily lives. Toxic people are those we must let go, and they may be a reflection of who we were, which is completely okay. The people we surround ourselves with now show us a reflection of who we are, and how we are moving forward. It’s important to look for rare souls who further us down the path of bettering ourselves to express who we want to be.

Next time you think about self-love as an Instagram post or a new outfit, I challenge you to ask yourself this important question: “Is this momentary happiness, or am I setting myself up for a greater future?” This question will help you determine what truly makes you happy, and no one deserves the fullness of self-love more than you.

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10 Struggles Girls Taller Than 5'7" Feel On A Spiritual Level

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

Any girl who is at least 5'8" will understand these struggles and possibly identify with them on a spiritual level.

1. Dresses not being long enough

Finding dresses for any occasion that will be long enough is like searching for rain in a drought. And when you find one, it's bound to either cost $$$ or not fit another aspect of your body.

2. Heck, pants are never long enough either

You are constantly flooding, or else you rolled up your jeans to look like capris. Unless you special ordered some jeans online in the coveted size LONG or EXTRA LONG, this will forever be your fate.

3. "Do you date guys that are shorter than you?"

This is a personal preference people! Don't assume that a girl will or will not date someone just based on their height difference! Also, don't judge if they aren't interested in someone who is shorter than them!

4. Not wearing heels because you don't enjoy being the skyscraper of the friend group

Wearing heels can be fun buuuuuuuut sometimes towering over everyone else is not our idea of fun.

5. It's hard to find cute shoes that actually fit

You would love to have all those cute little shoes in the clearance section, but most of them barely cover your big toe.

6. Everyone thinks you walk too fast

Short-legged people just can't keep up with you, even though you aren't even walking fast. Like at all.

7. People want to jump on your back

Just because you're tall doesn't give them the license to make you into their personal camel.

8. Never being able to cross your legs underneath desks and tables

You. Can. Not. Get. Comfortable.

9. Awkward hugs

Some people will never understand.

10. Never knowing how to pose in pictures

Should you sorority squat? Pop the hip? Bend the leg? Contort your body to feel like a normal sized human? So hard to decide.

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7 Signs You've Found An Authentic Friend

Never take true friendships for granted.


In a generation like ours, sometimes it's hard to distinguish a lifelong friend from a temporary one. There are friends for every part of your life: your childhood friends, college friends, work friends, and even friends that you play poker with at your retirement home. But one thing holds true during your life journey, hold on to your authentic friends. Here's how to distinguish one from an ordinary friend.

1. They remember specific details you've told them in the past.


How did they remember that your dog was turning 12 on June 6th? It's because they genuinely take the time to listen to you. This shows how much they care and want to know about your life.

2. They care about your well-being.


If you've heard your friend say things like "drive safe" or "text me when your flight lands", this shows how much they care about your safety. Authentic friends will make sure you are protected and feeling happy.

3. They always want the best for you.


We all know there is a big difference between a jealous friend and a supportive friend. Surrounding yourself with friends that want the best for you is important. More positivity will be brought in your life if you are aware of maintaining an encouraging environment for yourself.

4. They will be extremely honest with you.


True friends say it like it is. They won't lie and tell you your skirt matches your shoes if it doesn't. Honesty is the best policy when it comes to distinguishing a genuine friend.

5. They keep your secrets safe.


You can trust them and tell them anything. Authentic friends won't repeat secrets you've told them to anyone else, and this is such a refreshing feeling! These are reliable and trustworthy people.

6. They will go out of their way to help you.


This relates to caring about your well-being because they will do anything for you. Your true friends will go the extra mile without hesitation. They will be there for you wherever you need them and won't expect a favor in return.

7. They embrace your goofy side.


Everybody's got one! If you are able to be your true goofy self around your people then you, my friend, have found a true one! Enjoy being weirdos together.

If any of your friends meet these criteria, then you are blessed! Never take your true friendships for granted.

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