Everyone now says "relationship goals"
We see a cute couple and say, "goals"
A couple acts a certain way, "goals"
A couple does an activity together, "goals"
You get the point.... we see other people together and instantly say " this is a goal for couples. I want that."
But what about our own goals?
The goals we have for ourselves, alone, for us only -- as an individual. Our goals should not rely on who we have them with. We should be living our lives to succeed in the areas of life that we enjoy. Don't try and achieve the life that someone else has, because it will never work. We should spend time making our own dreams into reality. Focus on our own passions and find happiness there. We don't need another individual to be "goals".. all we need is the joy we get from our own adventures and passions.
I'm not saying that we shouldn't have goals to travel with a significant other or start a family one day... that is not what I mean at all. We should be able to set goals for ourselves that don't involve a relationship. We should not compare our lives to other people, or our relationships to other ones. We need to be ourselves and find value there. It starts with realizing that we are all beautiful and recognizing our self worth. We all have special qualities and traits that make us who we are and no one else is exactly like you, or me. We are our own person with our own desires and dreams -- and we need to become in tune with how amazing each and every one of is really is.
When we start to compare ourselves to others and make other people our "goals" we diminish our own self worth... we set ourselves up to fit a mold of someone else in order to be happy. We are not looking at the things that make us happy or the things that fulfill us. When we see a cute couple and immediately think about how single we are and how we could be so much happier if we had a significant other -- we start to think we NEED someone else in order to achieve our goals and find ourselves.
We should be original and make the most of what we have been given. No two people are the same, we are all vastly different and when we compare ourselves to others we start to seek approval from others. We want other humans to value us and validate us. But in reality we will never be truly happy when we chase the approval of others.
There is nothing wrong with having goals. But the next time you start to say that some one else is "goals" -- think about you. Think about all of the qualities that make you uniquely you. Because you are your own goals.. and you don't need a relationship to have goals. You don't need anyone but yourself to accomplish what you want. Let's all stop comparing and trying to change ourselves to fit a mold. Let's start to lie life in a new way and be true to who we are.
