Here we are, at the crossroad of plunging into the world of love, a world that scares most of us to death— not because we aren’t ready— because we have already had our hearts broken once, and we are not sure if we are ready for that again. A world that has some familiarity, but ended on a bad note.

We were vulnerable the first time, we embarked on this new adventure with a smile on our face and a heart ready to love passionately because, let’s all be honest, we thought we were going to marry that person. Your first love teaches you a lot about yourself, and the person you want to be. It also teaches you that heartbreaks suck and there is not enough ice cream in the world to mend a broken heart.

So, as time goes on we heal from our first heartbreak, but we never forget because we have to guard ourselves. We put up walls that take months trying to tear down, and at this stage of life, most guys do not want to stick around for it. However, when you are truly lucky enough to find the boy who wants to stick around, you realize how hard it is to actually love again.

We are so eager to get back out there, meet a cute boy, and dance the night away for only one night. The only problem with this is that meeting that cute boy to dance with that one night is different than the boy who wants to take down your walls. You are reserved, you are timid, you are wondering “is it worth it” “could this boy change my perception on love.” Boys scare the crap out of you because you know that they have the capability of hurting you all over again.

Your second love, though, will make you feel so much more special than your first love could ever imagine. This person makes you believe like a kid believes on Christmas morning. The second love gives you a hope for the future, that even though your first love did not work out the way you wanted it to; your second love is going to show you why you didn’t need your first love in the first place. You’ll probably compare the first couple of times from boy #1 to boy #2, but eventually boy #2 will become #1 and boy #1 will become a distant memory, and that is what you want.

So, second love, we’re waiting on you to show us why our first love never worked out. Come show us what it means to love again, and show us that reality really does have a happy ending. We are eager to meet you, timid to love you, but excited for the journey.

- Girl who is searching for her second love.