I can honestly say that I have never lost a friend, I mean you can’t lose something that you never had. You see a seasonal friend is just a person who has been placed in your life at a moment in time to help you through certain situations. They are placed in our lives to teach us a lesson and once that lesson is taught it is time to move on. Moving on is probably the most difficult part, when a seasonal person is beginning to exit your life it hits you like a whirlwind. This person helped you and encouraged you when no one else could, they know all of your secrets, and worse of all your family became their family. Then people around you begin to notice that things have changed, and you begin to wonder why things have changed? You begin to question yourself; am I not good enough, did I do something wrong? And that’s when drama starts to set in, especially when you’re young. It get confusing because once their job is done, you don’t need them anymore, and the entire friendship begins to feel like a huge lie. Over the years I have had my share of seasonal friends, as a matter of fact I lost two this year and I am in the process of losing the third.

In some cases, those seasonal people can mean a lot to you and as you grow older the lessons become clearer and the goodbyes aren’t as spiteful. They are still difficult, especially when you thought that your grandkids would be the best of friends and that y’all would be living in the same nursing home together. You see life doesn’t work out the way we want it too. I’m in the process of letting go of a seasonal friend. I don’t want to lose them, but this goodbye is painful because I knew that it was temporary and I thought that I could change that. We need that seasonal person in our lives to teach us that one lesson no one else can teach. Sometimes we know that people aren’t going to stand by us forever and we still choose to feed off of their presence. Once that lesson is learned don’t ever try force a friendship, because in the end fate always wins.

Even though we may not speak to some of those seasonal friends anymore, they left some type of impact on our lives. Not every person lost were seasonal, some were just distractions, but those seasonal people you won’t forget. They help you, create a better you, you learned how to handle situations better, you learn how to enjoy life and laugh more. Those from your past helped you become who you are today, but those in the future will help you become who you need to be. So, the next time you and your seasonal friend part ways, remember that there is a reason for everything, smile, remember that the friendship was not meant to last forever… only for a season.