I'm The Girl Who Says 'Sorry' Too Much

I'm The Girl Who Says 'Sorry' Too Much

It's a problem and I know it.


You know things are bad when someone asks, "why are you sorry?" and you genuinely don't have an answer.

To most people, that statement probably sounds ludicrous, but it's a question that I'm asked almost daily.

There are, most definitely, worse problems to have. But saying sorry an unreasonable amount can become an issue, nevertheless.

Most people use the words "um," "like," and "so" as filler words. When did sorry become a filler word? If I'm not apologizing for hurting, offending or excluding you, then why am I apologizing?

PSA: my excessive use of the word is just as annoying for you as it is for me.

Half the time, I won't have an answer to your question "why are you sorry?" but I will tell you this:

A lot of highly anxious people are known for saying sorry too much. Anxiety is when your brain works on overtime, just thinking and thinking until your head hurts. With all that thinking comes doubts and worries over the smallest things. I'll say sorry if I think I have offended someone in the slightest way. I'll say sorry because I feel like I could have said or done something better. I'll say sorry because I don't want to be too much. I never want to be the girl who talks too much, complains too much, asks for too much, and so forth.

Yet, I've become the one who says sorry too much.

How one is raised definitely has a lot to do with this. From a very young age, I was always taught to be polite, say please and thank you, and apologize if I did something wrong. I've always been sensitive and was good at putting myself in other peoples' shoes, even as a kid. Still, overusing the word sorry was never an issue when I was growing up.

It slowly started in high school, probably because this is the time when we become more aware (self-aware as well as aware of others).

There have been times when people around me were so intrinsically focused that they didn't apologize for things when they should have. Since I'm fairly observant and sensitive, I tend to take note of these events subconsciously. I guess somewhere along the way I realized I would rather say sorry too much than be the girl who never apologizes.

With that being said, I'm aware that there is a balance. One way to help cure the "sorry syndrome" is to start replacing the word "sorry" with more specific phrases. Changing your wording around can make all the difference. Instead of saying "sorry for rambling so much," I should say something like "thank you so much for listening to me." This may seem like the simplest task, but for some reason, the sorry syndrome is harder to cure than you would think!

Saying sorry too much is a problem, and I know it, but the important part is that I've noticed it and am taking the steps to fix it.

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To The Girl Who Isn't Graduating On Time, It Won't Feel Any Less Amazing When You Do

Graduating is something to be proud of no matter how long it takes you.


To the girl who isn't graduating college "on time,"

I promise, you will get there eventually, and you will walk across that graduation stage with the biggest smile on your face.

You may have a different journey than the people you grew up with, and that is OKAY. You may have some twists and turns along the way, a few too many major changes, a life change, you may have taken most of a semester off to try to figure your life out, and you're doing the best you can.

Your family and your friends don't think less of you or your accomplishments, they are proud of your determination to get your degree.

They are proud of the woman you are becoming. They don't think of you as a failure or as someone any less awesome than you are. You're getting your degree, you're making moves towards your dreams and the life that you have always wanted, so please stop beating yourself up while you see people graduating college on time and getting a job or buying a car.

Your time will come, you just keep doing what you need to do in order to get on that graduation stage.

Your path is set out for you, and you will get there with time but also with patience. The place you're at right now is where you are supposed to be. You are going to thrive and you are going to be the best version of you when you graduate and start looking for a company that you will be proud to work for. Don't look on social media and feel less than, because at least you're still working towards your degree that you are finally passionate about. You will be prepared. You will be ready once the time comes and you cross the stage, move away, and start your journey in whatever field you're going into.

Don't question yourself, and be confident in your abilities.

With love,

A girl who isn't graduating on time

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I'm Not The Person I Was In High School And I'm Not Sorry I Changed

I'm sorry, the old me can't come to the phone right now.


If those who knew me in high school hung out with me now, they probably wouldn't recognize me. If my friends from college hung out with me around two years ago, they probably wouldn't recognize me. It's safe to say I've changed... a lot. I definitely find the change to be for the better and I couldn't be happier with the person I've become.

In high school, I would sit at home every night anxiously waiting to leave and go out. Now, honestly, going out is the last thing I want to do any night of the week. While everyone in college is at a fraternity party or at the bars, I prefer to sit at home on the couch, watching Netflix with my boyfriend. That's an ideal night for me and it is exactly the opposite of what I wanted to do a couple of years ago. There's nothing wrong with going out and partying, it's just not what I want to do anymore.

I craved attention in high school. I went to the parties and outings so I could be in Snapchats and photos, just so people would know I was there. I hung out with certain groups of people just so I could say I was "friends" with so-and-so who was so very popular. I wanted to be known and I wanted to be cool.

Now, I couldn't care less. I go to the bars or the parties if I really feel like it or if my friends make me feel bad enough for never going anywhere that I finally decide to show up. It's just not my scene anymore and I no longer worry about missing out.

If you could look back at me during my junior year of high school, you probably would've found me searching for the best-ranked party schools and colleges with the best nearby clubs or bars. Now, you can find me eating snacks on the couch on a Friday night watching the parties through other peoples' Snapchats.

Some may say that I'm boring now, and while I agree that my life is a little less adventurous now than it was in high school, I don't regret the lifestyle changes I've made. I feel happier, I feel like a better person, I feel much more complete. I'm not sorry that I've changed since high school and I'm not sorry that I'm not living the typical "college lifestyle." I don't see anything wrong with that life, it's just not what makes me happy and it's not what I want to do anymore.

I've become a different person since high school and I couldn't be happier about it. I have a lot that's contributed to the change, but my boyfriend definitely was the main factor as he showed me that staying in can be a million times better than a night out. My interests and my social cravings have completely transitioned into that of an 80-year-old grandma, but I don't regret it.

Change doesn't have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can bring a lot more happiness and comfort. The transition from high school to college is drastic, but you can also use it as an opportunity to transition from one lifestyle to another. I don't regret the lifestyle flip I made and I couldn't be less apologetic about it.

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