At some point in your life you will hit an all-time lowest of the low moment that seems inescapable. No matter who you surround yourself with — whether you've got a team of supportive friends, a wonderful family, or maybe you're in it alone — every single day will be a battle. The most important thing isn't "don't give up"... it's making sure you're actually changing things in your life to improve your situation. It's so easy to sound like a broken record and say "I'm trying,” "I swear I'm trying to get better", but if you're not actively making changes every single day to cut out the negativity and toxicity around you there will be no new outcome. I believe it was Albert Einstein who said, "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results,” and it's completely true.
Some days are better than others. You'll wake up with a kick-butt attitude, feeling like you've soared past all the troubles from the day before. Other days you'll wake up and just lay there, pleading to just skip the day all together and stay safe in your warm cocoon. Those days especially, you need to push yourself to break the routine of miserable living. As someone once said, "to live doesn't mean you're alive.” Day after day, week after week, would you rather be simply existing, or truly coming alive and experiencing everything you possibly can? Personally I prefer the latter, but all too often I've only been stuck with the former. I have been in that cycle more times than I'm proud to admit. It is so easy to just shut down and keep being complacent with unhappiness and becoming a victim, but that's no way to live. You deserve more than that kind of life. So how do you get there? Honestly, I don't know.
I wish I could say this is the guaranteed way to feel better, get back on track and have everything come together, but that would be a lie. You have to dig deep within yourself and figure out: what can I control in my life to improve my situation, what is negatively influencing me and how can I remove or adapt it, and what do I need to internally change (whether it be an attitude about someone or something, a negative thought process about yourself, etc.) to be the best version of myself? No one can fix your life for you, and even the most wonderful and supportive friends will grow frustrated if they keep seeing you put yourself in the same situation over and over again.
Youhave to make the choice every day to be better than you are, and dedicate yourself to actively making changes to improve your life. It's not easy but over time it will allow you to become more self-aware and that will help the process become easier each time life throws you a curve ball. When you do get stuck in those cycles, sometimes you have to be blunt with yourself: Stop whining, complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. Today I will be better than I am.
