Salsa & Confidence

Salsa & Confidence

What makes you feel confident?


Ever since I could remember, I have listened to salsa music. I heard it playing in the backyard of my grandparents' house for every single family function; family members laughing loudly and dancing the night away was a common sight. I heard it whenever my mom was going to have a full day's worth of cleaning. I've heard it in times of great joy, and also at times of deep sorrow. Salsa has been part of my life.

Of course, I've always heard different types of Latin music throughout my life, particularly cumbia, merengue, salsa, bachata, and reggaetón, but salsa always struck me differently. Its rapid beat, powerful drums, and strong yet smooth dance style, have always filled me with pure joy-- the kind of joy that makes you forget about your day's worries, lifting you up to dance and sing your heart out all alone in your room. You feel on top of the world, even if you are just in your room. You feel invincible. You feel beautiful.

While salsa brings me that feeling, it's not the same for everyone. For others it can be fashion, makeup, sports, a hobby, literally anything, and that's the beauty of it. Often times I hear confidence being defined in terms of only being comfortable with yourself, and although that is true, I feel like confidence presents itself in other ways as well. There are certain activities that really do make us feel magical; they enrich our souls, deepening our self-love and self-interest. It's amazing to be able to find something in this world that makes you feel that way, and the fact that you actually found it is, in itself, something to give yourself credit for. If you haven't found anything that makes you feel that way yet, don't worry, because you will. If you put yourself out into the world, open to trying new things, then it is only a matter of when.

I honestly believe that this feeling of confidence is essential to our everyday lives, coping mechanisms, and task performance. If you do whatever your activity of choice is before you have to do say, a group project, it puts you in a good enough mood that you are more receptive as a team member, and more likely to put your best effort forward. Likewise, feeling that confidence all on your own and using that to get yourself back on track whenever you struggle, is a key way to deal with any setbacks. Overall, when you feel good, you perform better, so why wouldn't you do everything in your power to feel the best you possibly can?

So what makes you confident? What makes you feel invincible? Find it, and never let it go.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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