A-Brother-From-Another-Mother is one of the most beautiful things a person who is lucky enough to have in life. The true bliss is when the bond is thicker than blood, when friends are family, when there are two roofs but one heart and when there are two Last Names but one soul filled with nothing but just pure love.
Until i met him, i have never had a Brother. I never knew how it felt like to have someone other than my Boyfriend or my Husband or my own Father to love me, guide me, look out for me, care for me and protect me. I never knew how it's like having a Brother. I wish he could look inside my heart and really truly see the love i have for him that lies within.
The thoughts that makes me grin just by remembering the times we shared, the times he's been there just to care. Those times of long ago that only him and i could know; like when i dropped a cup full of Iced Green Tea on my Blackberry after coming home from a super long day at work and was too tired to even react that shattered the cup but not my Blackberry. And for when that one night i thought that it was gonna cost him $70 to Uber to work - he works less than 5km away by the way. HAHAHA!
Those times of heartache, pain, triumph, loss, hurt and gain. Eventhough life was throwing stones at me and tearing me down, he turned them into feathers. He chased my troubles away. He made everything feel okay just by his presence.
He was there for me, encouraging me. He never failed. He was there through my fears. He is my strength in the toughest times. He shields me with his care and protects me with his strength. He makes me feel safe, he is my safe place - for i know that as long as i have him, nothing can harm me. His hard work always inspires me.
With him, i am comfortable. I know i can talk about anything and everything under the sun or just be by his side in complete silence. He sees me at my worst, but he only speaks of my best. I can be happy about all the events that unfolds in life and all of my biggest achievements, but he knows my deepest insecurities.
He understands the things that I do not say. He listens to me then he protects me. He defends me during times when i cannot even defend myself. He tells me the truth no matter what and he knows when something isn't right just by looking at me. He especially knows that something is wrong even when i have the biggest smile on my face. He knows my best interests at heart, my emotions, my reactions and my feelings by heart. I feel like i am second nature to him and he should know by now how much that means to me.
He holds a special place in my heart that could be filled by no one else. There have been good times and few bad ones. Maybe because in many ways we are too much alike that i have never said it as somehow the time or mood never seemed right...or perhaps there is something in me that kept me from saying it in his face as much as i should have...but regardless, i love you, my Brother-from-another-Mother. Only a heart as dear as his would give so unselfishly. The many things he's done for me and all the times he was there, lets me know deep down inside how much he really cares.
Eventhough i might not tell him all the time how much i really appreciate him, how richly blessed i feel having a Brother just like him. He never promised me that he would solve all of my problems, but he promised that i wont have to face them alone and that everything will be alright. He's there for when i needed him. He who picks me up everytime i fall. He who sticks up for me when no one else will. Security, is having a Big Brother like him. He is my Superhero - daring, magnificent, amazing and courageous - well, at least that's how i see him. He is my bestfriend for life and a buddy through thick and thin. Even in the dark, he defends, protects and supports. When things don't go well, he's always there to help me understand.
He is kind even when he's tired and understanding even when he's angry. He does more than he's asked and never once asked for or silently expects anything in return. He is one the very rare people that i know who listens to understand and doesn't only listen to reply. He goes out of his way to do things for people. He is the greatest person he can possibly be everytime he makes up for when he messes up. While a Friend will ask why am i crying, a Brother like him already have a Shovel ready to bury the idiot that made me cry.
He is a Brother, who i look up to because he's strong and tough in so many ways yet extremely caring with a heart of Gold. Who i can pour my soul to, who i can laugh with to no extent, who i can run to, who i can cry to when times get tough, who i can lean on, who i can count on, who helps me through my problems in life. He relates to me like no other. He stood up and came to my rescue wherever he was, every single time. Never have he ever turned his back on me and said that i wasn't good enough or let me down. He's one of those souls i know who's gone through so much pain but still have the time for me.
He reads my mind and hears my heart but he still loves me for all that I am. His love is one like a Dad’s, his annoyance is one like a Sister's, his care is one like a Mother's and his support is one like a True Friend’s. He saw me at my best, he saw me at my worst, he saw me came first, he saw me came last, he saw me at my highest, he saw me at my extreme lowest and yet he still stood by…and i don't think he knows what all that really means to me…
It's so hard for me to explain with words, the kind of special Brother he is. He's a special person in this dark world, a bright and shining Star. A special person for me to run to and will always catch me when i do, no matter come what may. A special person to laugh and cry with. A special person to help me find my way. He listens and gives me advice when i don't know what to do. He's always there to help me make it through. He's a special person to those he know, helping when there's a need, one that we all love and a very special Brother to me indeed.
He knows when I need him, even during times when i do not reach out to him. He protects me in all ways he knows how, making sure no one and nothing bothers me. He cares for what i have to say and how i feel. I could never think of what life would be without him...i really couldn't.
There is literally no one like him…not even a single soul out of the eight billion on this earth are as tightly bound as his to mine. He is so, so, so, patient in the way he handles me, deals with me, my problems, my nonsense, my annoying habits, my stubbornness, my antiques and my insecurities. He's made me laugh countless times! He too saw me cry many dark days and nights, but he never fails to always listen even when it kills him on the inside.
Our text messages would make no sense to anyone else and our conversations just sounds crazy to anyone around us. I can tell him absolutely anything at all and he will listen. I can tell the same story four times and he will still laugh each time. He knows me inside out. And for someone to know everything about me and still love me just as much, i don't think he knows the kind of wonderful person that he is. Does he now? I am so, so lucky to have even met him 8 years ago, or was it 9? To me, he is priceless on this earth and my hereafter. His love for me knows no boundaries and has been so effortlessly unfailing.
You know, it comforts me whenever i think of him... I know that he is the person who will be there for me even when i cannot even be there for myself. I know that he will console me and be the one who picks me off the ground. I know that he will stand up for me and by me. Though with this stubbornness of mine, I know that he will always forgive me when I hurt him and occasionally, even bite his tongue when he could so easily have said, "i told you so Sis". He will always be the only one who understands my craziness like nobody else even when we don't see each other as much as we'd like anymore after he got his own place and has since moved out. He is always there whenever i need him the most.
While people come and go in my life, a Brother like him will stay in my heart for a lifetime. Eventhough life changes, memories don't. He is not only my life support, but he's also my life's pride. If he hadn't been there for me all these while, i really would have crumbled from inside. He is one of my true Heroes. Always steady and sober where I am impulsive, emotional and get panic anxiety attacks over the smallest little thing; like a tiny flying insect. He would do anything to see me smile, he makes funny faces and startles me whenever he gets the chance to, just to see how i would react and still love me even when I get mad.
Everyone has a Brother-from-another-Mother who they love like their own Brother and just like any other Big Brother, he is annoying, frustrating and incredibly worrying at times, but we never had a problem getting along with each other like normal siblings do.
Our journey through life may take us far apart but it will not matter as neither distance nor time will dull the bond that we share between us - I consider us, this bond of ours, to be unique and strong. For the bond that we share will never change, one that is truly priceless, a relationship really unlike any other. It's how we always remember each other when we are apart. We'll miss our talks, the laughs we had, the times we spent. Again, life changes, but memories dont.
He might not be my Brother because of Blood, but he is my Brother because of Love and wherever life takes us, heartstrings knows no end. I am proud to have a Brother-from-another-Mother like him. The Best Brother ever, i dare say. I wouldn't be the person I am today, without a Brother like him. Eventhough life is hard and will always be hard, no one could ever take his place in this heart of mine, for as long as i shall live. I am always aware of his absence...I missed him yesterday, i miss him still, i always have and i always will. I am almost absolutely sure that he's a Brother that God forgot to give me...because a Brother's love like his exceeds all the world's loves in its unworldiness.
Just how did i get so lucky? I cannot be more thankful for all his love, loyalty, laughter and tears…for all the times we've shared and will continue to share, for all he's given me and will keep giving, for all the special things that only he can do and will keep doing. He has always been selfless enough to love me, to look out for me, to protect me and care for me…for always.
"A Sister will hold her Brother’s hand for awhile…but she will hold his Heart, for a lifetime...”
