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Running Away Is Always Easier Than Staying

Building a life with someone without an escape route when something goes wrong, no matter how little, is petrifying.

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Running Away Is Always Easier Than Staying
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One thing I've always struggled with is letting go of control. You see, when you thrive off of being in control, you find yourself running away from things that you know damn well you're going to have zero control of. The problem is, though, when you've been on the move for so long, you're truly only at ease when you're moving. If you're a person who runs away from everything, you know how comfortable running is. Staying in one place is the most uncomfortable thing you can suck yourself into, and why choose discomfort over chaos, right?

So why choose this sort of lifestyle?

Well, when you plan to be the first one out the door, there is no real risk. Staying is the scary part. Investing in someone is scary. Opening up to a person and letting go of a little bit of that control with no guarantee of any benefit is terrifying. Getting out of your comfort zone is nerve-wracking. Building a life with someone without an escape route when something goes wrong, no matter how little, is petrifying. That is what’s overwhelmingly and unmistakably terrifying.

People who run away aren't who we think they are. They aren't these valiant heroes who are unwilling to settle for less. They're just the opposite. They're only comfortable when they can leave. Where's the ambition in that? They aren't thriving off of change itself. They live only by their own self-inflicted alterations. They’re comfortable within their own security.

If you're someone living with this way, you know that the only remedy lies within breaking the cycle. Leaving the comfort zone is the first step in the process. It means fighting against the impulse that says, "Leave." It means following through for once. It all boils down to knowing when to stay and when to leave. It means rewiring your fight or flight response. It means learning when to keep holding on and when to abandon all hope in something or hold on to what you have. It means reminding yourself that you are worthy enough. It's winning the battle against the voice that tells you that you aren't.

The only way to break the cycle is to let the current take you away. It means staying when it matters...and you’ll know when it matters. It’s what you choose to do, and whether or not you choose to run away will make the difference.

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