The Risk Management Chair: What It's Really Like

The Risk Management Chair: What It's Really Like


We all know that TSM is the holy grail of sorority newsites, I read their work every day myself. But you can’t believe everything you read on there. I know, I know; being a sorority girl, I shouldn’t diss the most perfect sorority forum on earth, right? Wrong. I’m going for it.

You see articles all the time about the Risk Management Chair sneaking off to a corner to take shots because she can’t be head sober sister while she’s sober, or other things like that. I am here to tell you all that it is absolutely possible to be a sober sister every time your sorority has a mixer. How do I know this, you may ask? Well, I’ve been doing it for the past nine months, and it has been one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.

Let me start by explaining exactly what I do for those of you who aren't familiar with Greek life. The Risk Management Chair is responsible for making sure that the girls of the sorority are safe and responsible while they are out mixing with a fraternity, and for making sure that all the girls have a safe ride home at the end of the night.

Last November, I was nominated to take the Risk Management position for my sorority. Later that same month, I was voted into my position. Most people don’t really want to take a position in which you are required to stay sober at every social function, and being a bit of a party girl my freshmen year, I was a little skeptical about it. I thought to myself, am I going to be comfortable with being one of the few sober people at a party, or is it going to be awkward?

I thought about it, and came to the realization that my sisters wanted me to have this position; if they have faith in me, I should have faith in myself as well. I was going to get to make sure all my amazing sisters stayed safe on the weekends. I realized, I have already been doing that. I am the girl who makes sure everyone gets home, no matter what shape I’m in. This was going to be perfect for me. I jumped head-first into the position when was elected, even though I didn’t technically start my term until January. I revamped our entire selection process for DDs and sober sisters, making it fair for everyone. I was beyond ready to take on my responsibilities when we came back from break.

The first few times we mixed in the spring semester were a little awkward for me, since I had to explain to everyone that I was not a party girl anymore; I was the mom now. I didn’t take the drinks everyone offered just to knock the nerves away. The more we went out, the more I observed and realized that I actually loved staying sober at mixers. Not only was I able to keep track of all of my sisters and make sure everyone was safe, I was also able to form different bonds with more girls.

Once you team up to sober sister with someone, you two have a new appreciation for each other. Someone always needs one of us to walk somewhere with them, or find another person for them, or track down their lost items. It’s like you are both in a million places at once, and it’s hilarious. The girl you sober sister with for the night is like your partner in crime. Being head sober sister, I have had the chance to partner up with almost every girl in my sorority for an entire night and get to know her on a new level. At the end of each of these nights, when I put all the girls in cars with DDs and made sure that the fraternity men we were with also made it home safely, I always remembered that this was the perfect job for me.

Over the last nine months, I have spent ridiculous amounts of money on gas for numerous late nights out that turned into early mornings out. Whether it was driving people back and forth across town, chauffeuring my girls when they didn’t want to stay at the official mixer, or 3 a.m. food runs–I wouldn’t have changed a thing.

My sisters are my family, and I am honored that they have let me take on the responsibility of keeping them safe.

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20 Fun Facts To Use When Introducing Yourself

As we embark on the semester, we are put on the spot in order to share interesting details about ourselves. This article discloses possible fun facts to tell others!

After experiencing my first week of classes, I have learned that every student needs a handy-dandy list of fun facts about themselves to tell other people. Many professors use the first couple of classes to learn about their students, so you may need to think about who you are and how you want to introduce yourself to your professor and classmates. We all have that one go-to interesting fact about ourselves, but sometimes you just have to mix it up!

1. My favorite hobby is...

What do you do in your free time? Personally, I love to stay active! I am a competitive Latin dancer and enjoy teaching and taking Zumba classes, going to the gym, and hiking.

2. I love...

Is there something, someone, or somewhere that you love? What makes your heart ache? What do you miss when it's gone? I can say that I love my friends because I feel my most confident when I'm surrounded by those who love and support me.

3. I look up to...

Is there someone you adore? Who mesmerizes you? Who do you wish to learn from? After watching "A Ballerina's Tale," I discovered Misty Copeland. In 2015 she became the first African American ballet dancer to become the Female Principal Dancer at American Ballet Theatre. Her passion, grace, and strength continuously motivate me to better myself as an athlete and an individual.

4. This art speaks to me because...

Coco Chanel said, "In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different." This encourages me to always follow my heart no matter what. I will never follow society's standards and norms because they do not define me. Chanel's saying definitely influences my character and lifestyle.

5. A funny and/or embarrassing memory of me is...

When you make others laugh they want to spend time and make memories with you! Don't be afraid to embarrass yourself. You will come off as down to earth, easy-going, and loyal.

6. My siblings or lack thereof influenced me by...

I can go on and on about my brother, who is 10 years older than I. We have opposite personalities and despite the age gap, we're quite close.

7. My pet(s) are my life because...

Only sad people don't like hearing about furry creatures, even if your pets are slimy and slithering creatures all human beings enjoy hearing pet tales!

8. I'm afraid of...

Your personality can be revealed by your likes and dislikes, including the things that you fear. I am terrified of change and the unknown, hence, the future is an anxiety-inducing topic to discuss for me.

9. I am the way I am because...

What have you gone through in life that has shaped you into who you are today? Remember to be open minded and allow yourself to open up to your peers. You may be surprised by how others respond and/or what others have endured as well.

10. The most unusual item that can be found in your dorm...

This is a fun fact about yourself that can easily liven up an awkward conversation. Think about your quirks and differences! One item I have in my dorm is my teddy bear, Peter, whom I like to joke is my boyfriend.

11. My dream job is...

In college, "What's your major?" is a widespread question. Nonetheless, skip the boring statement of "I'm majoring in..." and go in depth on what your dream job is (hopefully your major factors in to this dream of yours).

12. My hidden talents are...

Angelina Jolie is a knife thrower. Kendall Jenner can produce bird noises. Amanda Seyfried can crochet and knit. Is there anything special you can do? Some people have rare and unique talents, maybe you can think of some hidden talents of your own!

13. My guilty pleasure is...

I will say it a million times: don't be shy when introducing yourself to new people! I'll start by divulging my guilty pleasure: Youtube's family vlogging channel, "OKBaby"!

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14. Some activities on my bucket list are...

This is an easy way to grab people's attention and find others with similar desires as you. Be an adventurer! Go out of your comfort zone!

15. Talk about your best friend...

How would your best friend describe you? What do you love to do with your best friend?

16. Talk about an accomplishment of yours...

You are incredible and have achieved so much! Reveal something that you are proud of — show off a little!

17. This one time at my job...

Bosses breathing down your neck. Curious coworkers asking personal questions. Cursing customers who never leave you alone. Your job can be filled with tons of hilarious situations that can easily entertain a crowd.

18. During the summer...

Any scars with stories? Any summer flings? Any lessons learned from the tanning too long? Now that summer is over, disclose memories that can leave positive impressions on others.

19. I volunteer at...

Do you do any community service? Share a funny moment while you were volunteering. What did you learn while there? Would you continue?

20. [blank] is meaningful to me because...

What do you appreciate in life? What brightens your day? What makes you fall in love? What does someone have to do to make you smile?

Finally, remember to be outgoing! Reveal that three-mile smile and open your arms to learning about others. Spread smiles, love, and happiness.

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Confidence And Help With Your Problems Go A Long Way

It's only figured out if you can make it figured out.


No one likes to be challenged and no one likes having to face the pressure, but life is full of endeavors that will make you work. While some people have no problem with dealing with obstacles head-on, others struggle with them and refuse help when offered it to them. They tend to get lost and confused with no clear direction on how to overcome what is holding them back. Your highest self wants you to grow, change, and succeed, but that's only possible with confidence.

Most of the time, people tend to be faced with the same problem reoccurring over and over again. That results in them losing motivation and they lose sight of a potential lesson to be learned. This leads to people becoming frustrated, irritated, and depressed.

That's right: this article is another factor of depression.

What happens to those who are not confident in their challenges? They get a sense and feeling of powerlessness, like they are trapped within themselves and want to escape from reality instead of dealing with their problems head-on. More often than not, it makes them feel shameful because of all the problems that someone is dealing with.

Whether the problems one faces are drug problems, alcohol, depression, family issues, or even suicidal thoughts, there is always help available. Asking for help and recognizing you need it can make people feel ashamed and embarrassed, but sometimes they refuse to admit they need help.

That is when denial comes in and that only deepens their internal wounds even further. Sometimes, people can go too far with their reluctance of help and they believe that no one can help them. Their confidence and image of themselves eventually become so low that there is only one solution to them: ending it all.

The first step to building confidence is recognizing that you need help to begin with. By recognizing the problem right away, you are able to come out of your cycle and then can identify a way to do something about it. The cycle of depression and help refusal is something that you cannot come out of unless you help it yourself.

By getting help, your problems start to diminish and your confidence builds because now, you have advice on not only what your problem is, but ways to get out of it. People go from not being hopeful at all that they can overcome whatever it is that is holding them back, to feeling they can deal with anything. This is where the people who can overcome obstacles come into play.

These people have all the confidence and all the determination that they fear nothing. Their will to work and goals set for themselves drive them to let nothing stand in their way and will not tolerate anything less than getting a goal accomplished. If people could be more like these people, just imagine how depression can be handled today!

Maybe sometimes it's easier to run than face all the pain, but never facing the heat and getting the help will do more bad than good. After all, you need some confidence to get far in life right?

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