Reminders To Myself When It's My Turn To Be A Mom

Reminders To Myself When It's My Turn To Be A Mom

Don't forget what it felt like when you were the child.

Today, I have been thinking a lot about my future; six months from now to six years from now. What job will I have? Where will I be living? Will my husband want to name our kids the same thing I do? That question moved my thoughts from the future to the past. Whatever their names may be I know what kind of mom I do not want to be.

Ashley, when it's your turn to be a mom, these things, don't you ever forget:

Don't forget what it felt like each Mother's Day when all the other kids were making gifts to personally give to their moms and you were making something that you knew your mom would never see it.

Don't forget what it felt like having every mom cheer for you from the stands at your softball games except for your own.

Don't forget what it felt like sitting in your best friend's living room with her mom just talking about everything, wishing that your mom was around to talk and laugh.

Don't forget what it felt like to have your grandma come to all the Girl Scout meetings with you when all the other girls sat with their moms.

Don't forget what it felt like waking up on Christmas Day without your mom there recording and taking pictures.

Don't forget what it felt like to walk into church alone and sit beside a mother and her daughters.

Don't forget what it felt like to not have your mom go prom dress shopping with you any of the four years.

Don't forget what it felt like to be asked at every family event where your mom was.

Don't forget what it felt like to never know where your mom was.

Don't forget what it felt like praying for your mom each night while you held onto the same bear she had growing up.

Don't forget what it felt like to have to introduce your mom to all your teachers because they had never seen her at a parent/teacher conference.

Don't forget what it felt like to be introduced as "my daughter" even if it was by your boyfriend's mom. Or how happy you were to have someone to talk about boys with even though that boy was her son.

Don't forget what it felt like to plan and pack for college all by yourself.

Don't forget what it felt like to sincerely call all your friends' moms "mom" and not your own.

Don't forget what it felt like each time you asked your mom to do something with you and her making up countless excuses.

Don't forget what it felt like to call your mom when you wanted to see how she is doing just for her not to answer.

Please, just, don't forget.

XO and best wishes,

Ashley Rose

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Why I Appreciate My Parents So Much

This is for my two biggest supporters.


One thing I've noticed, the older I've gotten, is how much I appreciate my parents.

We've become so close, it's almost funny to think at one point I looked at them so much differently. When I was younger, my parents were much more strict than they are now. They disciplined differently and didn't let me do certain things. The older I've gotten, the more freedom I've gotten, which is one big sigh of relief.

My parents are such great people. Throughout my whole life, I've always had friends of parents or people who know my parents tell me how great they both are. I'm so blessed to have been raised by them and to have gotten their characteristics.

My mom is so loving and generous, and she thinks of literally everyone else in her life before herself. She's smart and funny, and she is always there when I need someone to talk to. She's taught me how to be courteous, kind, funny (with her sense of humor), and most importantly, accepting towards others.

The older I get, the more I realize how similar I am to her. She's my favorite woman in the whole world. We understand each other.

My dad is a thoughtful, hilarious, wise, and helpful guy who has taught me so many lessons throughout the years. He always makes sure my finances are in order, even more than I do. He keeps me laughing with his funny stories and made-up songs that he sings. He always asks me how my day was every time I walk through the door. He is so adorable and thoughtful, and I'm so happy I got his wit and humor.

His smile lights up a room and I'm so happy I've been hearing his laugh and will continue to for the rest of my life.

Another great thing about my parents is that they've taught me what love looks like. They're so loving, kind, and patient towards each other. I've rarely ever seen them fight in my life. They still treat one another how they did when they first started dating. I have friends and know people whose parents aren't together, and I'm so lucky to say I can't imagine what that's like.

My parents complete each other; they are soulmates. I'm so lucky and appreciative that I get to have the honor of watching their love play out throughout their lives.

I'm so happy and thankful that these are the parents I ended up with. They're the best. I hope to be half of my parents when I become a parent myself.

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