Why is it that friendships seem to come and go? Or is it just me? No, it is not just me, let's be honest, it is everyone else.
As a sophomore in college, my friendships have taken many twists and turns. Freshman year was a hard journey because all my close friends from high school were either still at home, at other universities, or at the same university as me. How to make new friendships and retain old ones is very essential.
Last year, I remember when my friend called me from her university upset about something, and I was heartbroken. I wanted to be there for her, literally right there to hug her and tell her that everything was going to be okay. At the time, she did not have anyone else to be there for her and as a friend and I felt like I was not doing my job, because I was too far away. As we both cried on the phone, we ended up laughing about the situation, but that was when I knew it was going to be a difficult battle to keep my long distance friendships.
While I was at my university she would be making new friends, memories, and jokes that I would not understand. And I would be doing the same but as long-time friends we would always be there for each other, no matter how far away, or busy.
So when it comes down to keeping current friendships remember to:
1. Communicate: Even a text every once in a while is nice just to let them know you were on their mind.
2. Trust.
4. Love each other.
5. Eat together. Make meals together, it creates more precious memories.
So far this semester has been great, I have come across a lot of great people, who potentially could be my life long friends. In college classes it is hard to make friends, especially if your professor doesn't do group projects! We love group projects sarcastically. But honestly when class starts you cannot just talk to your classmates while the professor is talking, you have to be quiet. And then when class is over everyone typically leaves.
Here are five ways to ignite new friendships:
1. Create a study group: Study groups can help you make new friends and you might get a good grade on the exam.
2. Do not be shy: Socializing is a skill, tell someone you like their shoes, just to spark up a conversation. You never know what could happen.
3. Go to campus events: You are paying for them so you might as well go and have fun!
4. Be a yes man! Say yes when people invite you places. Most of the time when I hesitate to say yes to something someone invites me to, I end up having a great time. Do not limit yourself.
