Relationships: they are never easy and when you get into one, they may seem impossible to get out. Not all relationships are the same; some are more complicated, some are rocky, some are great, and some work out. But, being in a relationship with a significant other is not always the right answer. We see so many people we know that are in relationships and we wish we had someone too, but have you have thought that it is best for you not to be in one just yet? Being with someone brings both positives and negatives just like anything else. You aren't always going to agree, you may think differently, you both may have different view points, and other aspects of the two people that they are still trying to figure out about themselves.
Being single is NOT a bad thing, at all. When your are single, you get to focus on yourself, work on your goals and aspirations, become the best person you can be, and find happiness within yourself. I've seen too many times where my friends break up with their significant other and they don't know how to function without them because their significant other was "the best part of them." I'm here to say that you need to be happy with yourself, be confident in yourself, and love yourself. Know who you are. No other person should be the determining factor of your happiness because things happen and at the end of the day, sometimes all you have is you. Being able to be happy without someone is one of the most important things because you aren't dependent on anyone to give you happiness.
Being independent and establishing who you are before getting into a relationship is the key. A lot of people are scare that they won't find anyone, but you shouldn't be. When the time comes, someone will come into your life when you least suspect it. We all search, including myself, but sometimes when we search we find less. We invest so much time and energy into being concerned with what others think of us when we could be putting our precious time towards ourselves. Yeah, it is hard sometimes when all of our friends have a significant other, but that doesn't mean you should force yourself into a relationship. That is one of the worst things. Forcing a relationship is like trying to put the wrong puzzle piece in the puzzle; it doesn't work!! Being independent gives everyone a way to find themselves; learn more about who they are; who they want to become; what they want to improve on; how they can become a better person or change something for the better; how they can be happy with themselves; how they can love themselves; and how you can become the best person possible for yourself and your future significant other when the time is right, of course.
