How many times have you lowered your expectations in a relationship because someone called you dramatic or said you are over thinking? Well, enough is enough because I am here to say you are allowed to have expectations and you are not crazy.
Ladies and gentlemen, it is not normal for your partner to hide their phone. Countless times I’ve had someone flip the script on me and made me feel like the bad guy. “You should trust me.” “Maybe you’re worried about my phone because you have something to hide in yours.” These are a couple of the countless excuses I’ve heard. They are all BS. A confident partner who has nothing to hide will be proud and willing to show you their phone to make you feel stupid for even questioning them. I’d rather be proven wrong that way than having a shady partner.
It is not normal for your significant other to go missing for hours. Unless they are at work and cannot have their phones out, then what are they doing?? This is 2017 people. Do not tell me you are not checking your phone for hours at a time. I have dated someone who went days without texting or calling me. How is that normal? I could have been lying in a ditch or in someone’s trunk, but they would not have known because they apparently lost my number. I’m not a needy person and I definitely do not have the time to text someone 24/7, but it takes .2 seconds to text someone “good morning” or casually text throughout the day to make sure they are still alive.
In no situation is it OK to raise your voice with your partner. You are an equal, teammates, better halves, partners. If anyone ever raised their voice at my partner, I would go crazy on them, so what makes it OK for me to do that? NOTHING.
Cheating is cheating, with no justification is it acceptable. Because this is 2017, social media is how we live and get through an 8-hour shift at work every single day. If your partner is adding random people of the opposite gender, for what? Do they need more friends? I don’t think so. Cheating isn’t just the physical aspect nowadays. Cheating used to be one clean definition. Not anymore. Cheating is texting someone “too friendly,” messaging people on social media, checking someone out for too long, etc.
I've caught myself so many times telling someone, “wow you’re being nice today.” That is not OK. It should not feel like a rarity or an occasion that your partner is being nice to you. That should not be your normal.
