Reuniting with your family after a long semester at college can be a joy and a nightmare. For some of us, our families and friends back home attack us with the same questions...
Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?
Why aren’t you seeing anyone yet?
Do you have your eye on ANYONE?!
No Aunt Louise, I don’t have my eye on anyone and I’m FREAKING happy about it. College is the place to be if you want to get hitched. You’re surrounded by people your age who are looking for relationships. We feel like we need to find our “one” before our four years are up because after that, we’ll be old and worthless. So we look and we look and we get ourselves into relationships we know are unhealthy or relationships we know won’t work out in the long run. We jump the gun way too fast and suffer heartbreak as a result.
No thanks.
It’s perfectly fine (and personally preferable) to not be in a relationship right now. You just got out of high school. This is your first taste of freedom. You barely know who you are. Now that you’re in college, you get to meet people who are like you and become the person you’re meant to become. Enjoy it! I’m not saying you can’t enjoy it in a relationship, but you have more than one person to think about when you’re in a relationship. If you want to take that awesome study abroad offer in England, you have to clear it with the bae first. Whether you want to believe it or not, bae might hold you back a little.
You don’t need someone else to complete you. You’re perfectly capable of having a good time on your own. You don’t need someone to make you feel beautiful. “Bae’s” compliments aren’t going to increase your own self-worth. That’s something you have to work on yourself. I understand it’s nice having someone there to make you feel worthy, but that person can’t fix what is making you feel not good enough.
Here’s the most important relationship advice: WAIT. Have fun while you’re young and do relationships later. Relationships in themselves aren’t something to throw around. You need to be mature and willing to work hard in order to have a successful relationship. Some college students barely know how to do their own laundry but you want to jump into a relationship your first semester? OKAY.
People overemphasize the importance of relationships and it’s honestly not worth stressing about. Have some time to figure out who are and to love yourself before bringing someone else into that. Make mistakes and learn from them. Take risks and do things you’d never thought you’d do. You don’t need another person to make you happy or to make you feel whole. That has to come from within yourself.
