Relationships are like cake. There are all sorts of different flavors, styles, layers, and recipes for delicious cakes, but the one common factor about all cakes is that they add a little extra sugar and spice to our lives. Just like a lot of things can go wrong while baking a cake, the same can happen in relationships. There is a science behind every single one just like the chemistry in baking. Confused yet? Keep reading, ha!
To make the perfect cake you have to start out with a great recipe! The first thing to do is to develop your recipe. Just like in relationships, each individual has their own ideas about what goes in to making the perfect cake. For example, the recipe is the foundation and standards in your relationship. Before you dive into a relationship, you need to know what you expect and want out of the relationship. If you go into the kitchen and blindly start whipping something up, who knows what you're going to get! Be intentional in your decisions about what recipe and kind of cake you want. Just like any good baker out there knows, you have to know what you want before you start baking your ideal cake.
After you have gathered your recipe, it is time to start making the cake. By following the specific recipe chosen by you and your relationship partner, now is your chance to get to know each other. This is where you mix different ingredients and personalities into the bowl. Each ingredient is wholesome and completely different from the other, but they work together to make something great. The same is for you in your relationship. Keep being yourself. Do not turn into sugar if you're meant to be flour. If you try to please others and not be yourself, you'll end up with a dense, and salty cake. You will still end up with a cake, but nobody wants that kind of dessert, or relationship.
Next, it is time for the oven. The oven represents the rough spots in every relationship. The saying "If you can't handle the heat, stay out of the kitchen" becomes far too relatable. In your relationship, look at this time as one of potential of having the perfect cake instead of worrying if you will end up burnt with crusty edges! At the end of it all, you'll both come out better, stronger, and even more delicious than you started!
We can't forget about the icing! Cakes have icing on top; they are not made of icing. In relationships, I look at the physical aspect as being the icing on the cake. It is somewhat of an after thought in a good way! The icing adds that extra zing to the cake, and who doesn't love icing?! But cakes are made of ingredients and hard work, not icing and fluff. Icing is not and should not be the basis of cakes. After all, if you eat too much icing, you will get sick of it eventually. If your complete focus in your relationship is on the physical aspect, you will end of being sick of it, and your cake will be smothered.
Finally, to have a wholesome relationship, remember to know your standards and follow your recipe to how you want your relationship to be. Get to know each other by completely being yourself - each ingredient has to be completely independent to be able to work together in the end. The oven is the ultimate test, and these hot times will come. Lastly, icing is a great additive, but it can be sickening and ruin a relationship if it is the basis.
Most importantly, enjoy your dessert and bon appetit!
