If there is one thing I have learned from my life experiences it is that everyone does relationships differently, and not everyone is a relationship type. Some people are very much the relationship type, even at a young age. Some people just aren’t the relationship type yet, while others it seems as if they’ll never become the relationship type. Some people just prefer to settle down earlier in life than others. And others don’t. Either is fine, there’s no like set time you need to be in a relationship or not in a relationship. But regardless of what type of person you are, there always seems to be a lot of negative feelings towards people who are in serious relationships at a young age. Over my time in a serious relationship, I have heard a couple of big problems people have with others being in that serious relationship. I do not think it’s everyone’s business anyway what the status or seriousness of my relationship is; but it seems others disagree, and thus this article was born. Here are a couple of the biggest problems I’ve heard people have with serious relationships at a young age.
I honestly do not understand the stigma around a serious relationship at a younger age. Many people say that you need to find yourself before you can be in a serious relationship with someone. This is true to an extent, but in general I have never really found this to be a big problem. Finding yourself and discovering who you are and all that is rarely ever a one time experience. It happens all the time and continues to happen. The right person will only help you find yourself more, and help you to become more truly who you are. Not the opposite. If you feel that you need to end a relationship to go and find yourself you probably should not be in that relationship in the first place.
Another argument I hear is that you will be missing out on something if you are in a relationship. The main problem I find with this is like what am I supposedly missing out on? I have heard several people say that you’re missing out on your freedom, or you lose it when you begin a relationship. I have honestly never found this to be true simply because if the person you are dating makes you feel like you have no freedom, that probably is not the right person for you either. A serious relationship shouldn’t have to feel like a job or a prison sentence or anything of that nature. You should be able to be in a relationship while also keeping your freedom.
The point of this is, everyone is different when it comes to relationships. Not everyone is even the relationship type. Don’t make someone feel badly for what they choose to do or not do in terms of relationships or even hook ups.
