As we all know, guys can be pretty darn oblivious to things that seem super obvious to us girls. So, when getting involved with someone new, here are some important reminders for guys out there about what should happen when beginning a relationship with someone new.
1. Each girl is different
You can't project your ex's likes and dislikes onto your new girl. What your ex used to absolutely hate, your new girl might absolutely love. It seems to go without saying that each girl is different, but guys really do seem to just group us all together sometimes and assume that if one girl likes/dislikes something, that's the case with all the other girls, too. False.
2. She probably would love a little reassurance here and there
Almost every girl begins to wonder at a certain point if you're still interested. You gotta keep letting her know that you want her to be yours. Girls LOVE hearing that type of stuff. Something as seemingly small as you liking the same girl's tweet a few too many times can lead us to wonder if we're the one you're still interested in. So don't leave her guessing, let her know. That will win you major points in her book.
3. Effort is so attractive
The little things make the biggest difference. Whether it's sending her a text when something makes you think of her, randomly telling her how beautiful she is, or surprising her with a cute date or her favorite food, showing that you care with your actions is so important and will keep your relationship moving forward.
4. Actions speak louder than words, but words are important too
They go together. Tell her how you feel about her, and keep telling her, and keep telling her so that she doesn't begin to have doubts. And then, prove those things that you said by the way you treat her. Use actions to back up your words.
5. Just be honest
This will get you a long way. Say how you're feeling. That's all.
6. Open up a little
Most girls are so excited to get to know everything about you. Even the insignificant things. We want the good, the bad, and the ugly. That might come across as strange, but getting to be the one you tell these things to makes us feel really special. Whether it's just letting it out when you've had a bad day or talking about your favorite memories from when you were a kid, anything you choose to share with us makes us feel so appreciated and special.
7. Sometimes you kinda will be expected to read her mind
This might not seem fair, but it's just the way we operate. We want you to know what to do and to say without us having to tell you, because that's missing the point. So, if your girl has had a bad day, know to cheer her up without her having to ask. We'll feel whiny and needy if we have to straight up say to you "do you still like me," so we'll put it off until it eats us alive. If your girl has been dropping any hints at all (subtweeting, posting certain song lyrics, sending you screenshots of something she thinks is really cute), you should probably look into it. It's a great feeling when you feel like your guy is starting to understand what you need without you having to verbalize it each time.
8. Gifts are nice, but they won't completely make up for whatever happened
I've had many conversations with my gal pals where their boyfriends do something that makes them upset, only for their boyfriends to show up the next day with flowers and chocolate and expecting to move on. While gifts are nice, what we really want after an argument is a sincere apology and for you to actually change/improve upon what you said you would change/improve upon. And if you're trying to suck up, a gift definitely couldn't hurt, but only if you accompany it with keeping your word. This is especially a problem at the start of a new relationship when you're still trying to figure out what makes each other tick.
