We've all been there before. We fall for someone, everything is perfect, but then you start to notice the spark you and your partner once had has been dampened. Here are 10 relationship killers to keep out of your relationship to help keep that spark alive!
1. Being Too Busy For Your Partner
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Everyone is busy, it's a fact of life. However, if you're too busy to make enough time for your partner or you keep missing important events to them you're likely putting a damper on the relationship. It will make your significant other feel like they're not a priority if they always are put on the back burner to everything else in your life.
2. Acting Annoyed When Your Partner Is Talking About Something They Care About
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If you catch yourself rolling your eyes or acting annoyed when your partner is talking about something they care about that you don't chances are they are catching on to it to. The problem with this nasty habit is that it makes your partner feel like an annoying burden and it makes it seem like you could care less about them or the relationship. While I get no one wants to listen to someone complain about the same thing every day or constantly talk about a topic they don't find interesting there is a right and a wrong way to go about a situation and the right way is not making your partner feel like they're annoying or don't matter.
3. Not Telling Them What They Mean To You
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While not everyone's love language is words of affirmation it's still important to tell your partner what they mean to you and how attractive you find them. People aren't mind readers and if you don't tell them how important they are it might come off like they're not. Everyone is different so make sure you figure out how much affirmation your partner needs so that you don;t give too little or too much.
4. Letting The Flirting Die
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People like being flirted with when they are into someone. Not only does it spark your relationship at the beginning but it's one of the things that can keep that spark ignited. If you stop flirting with your partner it could let the spark dull or make them question your level of interest. If you want to keep your relationship alive never stop flirting with your partner.
5. Leaving Fights Unresolved
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This is the best way to bring bad vibes into your relationship. Nothing wedges into a relationship like a unresolved fight. Sometimes it can be hard to talk something out when you're tired or are busy but never let your or your significant other go to sleep angry. It could make the problem worse especially if your partner has been wanting to talk it out. If one of you needs time to cool off or think the situation through communicate that don't just leave your partner hanging feeling like they're the only one working for the relationship.
6. Blowing Off Your Partners Critiques
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Don't get me wrong it's hard to hear that you hurt someone or are doing something wrong. However, when your partner is telling you what they need or that you hurt them they're not doing it to start a fight or make you feel bad they're just communicating to better the relationship. A relationship is a partnership both of you should be actively working to meet the other's needs. Don't blow your partner off when they tell you what they need or that they're upset. It will seem like you don't care or aren't willing to work for the relationship.
7. Being Dishonest
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Trusting people is hard enough don't make it harder by lying to your partner. Always be honest even if the truth might hurt it will cause less problems in the long run if your partner knows they can trust you and you will get into less fights since you're not getting caught in lies.
8. Being Unfaithful
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Cheating on your partner will not only break their trust and heart but cause the end of your relationship. If you are going through a rough patch or your needs aren't being met either talk it out or leave. Once you go down this road there really is no going back to how things were before even if you two don't break up.
9. Expressing Your Feelings In A Hurtful Way
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It's important to express how you feel. But do it in a nice healthy way rather than being a jerk.
10. Not Expressing Your Feelings
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Going off the last one not expressing your feelings at all is just as bad. This could internally make you resent your partner or the relationship if you don't express to them when they hurt you or do something wrong. Your partner can't fix or help a situation or problem if they don't know anything is wrong.
Have you dealt with any of these relationship dampers in your love life?
