Relationship Finals Survival Guide

Relationship Finals Survival Guide

Five Tips to keeping a healthy relationship during finals week.
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Finals is a stressful time for all of us. Especially when you’re in a new relationship. When you’re still in the honeymoon phase and finals hit, that dies quickly. So if you want to keep your significant other and ace your finals, follow these simple steps.

1. Accept that you cannot see each other every waking moment.

If you attempt to stay together every second of finals week, you will kill each other. Your schedules are going to conflict and that’s okay. You still enjoy each other, you just cannot be at each others sides because you will end up at each other’s throats.

2. Set aside at least one time period for each other.

This will ensure that you still get to see each other but you have other time in the day to study!

3. Make sure you see each other before the first of you leaves

4. Do not make promises you cannot keep

Do not be upset with one another if plans fall through. Just understand that your significant other is trying their best!

5. Keep in contact via text or video calling

Never underestimate video calling. Just seeing each others smile or face can brighten your day and alleviate a little bit of your finals stress. Do not forget about each other, but understand that you are both busy.

Even though you are both busy does not mean that either of you cares less for the other. Just follow these steps and do not make any drastic decisions in the stress of finals week. Now Rihanna bless and you’ve got this. May both your relationships and finals come easy and with as little stress or heartache as possible. Rock on my loves.

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To The 20-Year-Old Girl Dating A 45-Year-Old Man, From The Child Of An Age Gap Relationship

Please know what your getting into.
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Recently, I've seen a few stories on the Odyssey discussing age gap in relationships.

They all seem to be written by girls who are dating men who are 20 years or more their senior. The articles talk about how love is love, the heart wants what it wants and that no one will change their mind about their relationship. I respect everyone's right to their opinion and their happiness. If you really think it works for you, then go for it. However, you should know what you are getting into completely before fully committing to this.

I am a child of parents with a large age gap. My dad is 23 years older than my mom. They got married when he was 50 and she was 26. My dad was 65 by the time I was born. I love my parents but here's why I think we should be wary of large age gap relationships

Disclaimer: my parents both know and understand my feelings on this. They know I wrote this article and that they are mentioned. I wouldn't trade or change them or their relationship. My parents have provided me with a wonderful life full of love, family, and happiness. Because of them, I've been given financial stability, a safe environment, an education and a huge, loving family. Things have worked out for our family, especially given the circumstances. However, that doesn't mean I would recommend a large age gap relationship. It may seem like nothing now, but the years between you and your significant other will catch up to you.

My dad is now 86 and struggling. He has trouble taking care of himself.

He needs help with almost everything. He can't be left alone for more than an hour or two. He has nurses come three times a week to help with his care. He needs someone present when my mom leaves the house to work part-time. His memory is fading, his health is declining and it seems that he slips out of lucidity more often these days.

My mom is now a full-time caregiver more than a wife.

She does an amazing job making sure my dad is content and taken care of. However, it is draining. She is still young enough to want to go out and do things. She wants to go on vacations and hang out friends. But most of the time, she is at home watching my dad. She is following her wedding vows to a tee but that doesn't mean it is easy. She struggles with guilt sometimes over the entire situation.

Then there is me. Because of my parents' age gap, I have been put in a difficult place.

I've had to watch my dad slip away physically and mentally for a good portion of my life. I try to help out but it is not always an easy thing to do. I will go watch TV with him so my mom can get out for an hour. Unfortunately, I usually end up calling her home because something arises that I can't handle alone. I have gone over to their house many times to help pick my dad up because he fell and refuses to let someone call the EMTs. I have changed college and life plans in order to stay close to home. I have known since I was little that my dad most likely won't be there for my wedding. He won't meet my children. I have struggled with my relationship with him due to the immense age gap. It is all I have ever known but it is something that still greatly affects me. I love my dad with everything I have, but that doesn't make the situation easier.

So my warning to you is this; be prepared for what is down the road.

Know that your age difference of 18 and 40 doesn't seem like anything now but it will at 60 and 82. It will be difficult for everyone involved. As a wife, you will slowly watch the man you loved slip away. Your kids will have to deal with struggles that no one else will understand. It is a lonely and painful situation. Before you make any drastic decisions, please understand what is coming.

If you decide that is what's right for you, then, by all means, go for it! but just understand the consequences of your choices.

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10 Things You Know Too Well If You're Dating Your Best Friend

"You know it's real when you know their Chipotle order, am I right? "
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Whether you've been together for a couple of months or a couple of years, when you're dating your best friend, you just know things. Maybe it is because you two were friends before or maybe falling in love made you realize how much of a best friend they are to you, but here are 10 things you'll know way too well if you're dating your best friend!

1. You know each other's food order at basically any restaurant

You know it's real when you know their Chipotle order, am I right?

2. You can tell how they're feeling just by a look they give you or the tone of their voice

They can be talking on the phone with their mom or talking about their day and you can tell exactly what their feeling just by words they use or facial expressions.

3. You can trust them to pick out your clothes or bring you something for your room

You can say "The red shirt that I wore to that thing with your friend," and they will know exactly what you're talking about!

4. You parents will ask about your partner more than you

Um hello? I'm your actual child, remember?

5. Your friends are confused if they see you out in public without your partner

"Where's (insert partner's name here)?" ... "Hi, hello, yes nice to see you, too."

6. You can finish each others stories

You two are so close and you know each other so well that if they're telling the story about how they broke their arm in the 5th grade, you can finish the entire story yourself-basically word for word.

7. You know their work/school schedule better than your own

8. You can have fun literally anywhere you go

You could go to Disney World or the grocery store and still have just as much fun.

9. You are excited to see them whether you've been apart 3 hours or 3 weeks

10. Everyone says you two are #RelationshipGoals


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