Gender isn't real.

Yes, people are born with certain parts, but even then no parts are really the same. The stereotypes and expectations put on the assigned genders of people are no more real than Santa or the Tooth Fairy. There's a constant push for women to be pretty, proper, compliant. There's the same sort of push for men, but for them, they must be overly masculine, reject emotions, and communicate through muscle. Even the clothes we wear have pushed expectations, designed for what men want to see women in, and vice versa. Suddenly everything seemed so artificial, and I didn't know where to fit anymore.

So I did a lot of research, and came across a lot of terms for people in similar boats, and learned a lot about gender. I figured out that most often I feel no gender, while other times I feel slightly like other genders. By realizing this and effectively rejecting the stereotypes I had grown up in, I suddenly found myself much happier, and I felt much more like who I should be.

My rejection of society's perspective of gender made me reevaluate my life and what was really important, and what I want for myself.

It caused me to become far more introspective and focus on myself to see what I liked and wanted instead of worrying how well I fit into a category that nobody fits in anyways.

Along with pushing away gender, I pushed away sexuality as well. I have yet to find any sort of label that really fits me, so I just go as vague as possible when people ask. Pushing away my gender makes me view everyone else more objectively. It's allowed me to become far more open to others, as I can't really judge what others do for or against gender stereotypes as I have rejected them completely. Just as gender, I think that sexuality is a social construct as well. It's a preference for how you want to live your life and who you want to love.

My point of this article is that looking past the stereotypes of gender and sexuality have helped me focus on myself rather than others, and make decisions that I want rather than focus on pleasing the social constructs pushed upon me. Within a few short months, I have completely transformed myself simply by discovering what gender means to me and how it translates to my sexuality. It has made me much more comfortable and happy with myself as well as allowing me to push myself to strive for happiness and look for it rather than sit and wait. My rejection of gender liberated me and allowed me to live my life to the fullest rather than sit and conform to a gender that doesn't fit me.