Yes, everyone, and I do mean everyone, had that one person relationship or just from the talking stage that absolutely destroyed something inside of them. You went through the grief process, from crying and blocking them on every single social media outlet and phone numbers and promising yourself and your friends that you'd never talk to them again. Now years have passed since this person was in your life, but whenever you hear their name you still get heated and the feelings of hate and hurt rise back up to the surface -- this is your signal that you haven't fully healed. Part of the healing process involves making contact with that person.

I know what you're thinking, "I hate them and I never want to see them again." Let me just stop you there; that is a lie. You are curious. You want to see what their life is like after making yours miserable. You need to know and let your mind finally be at rest.

Now if you're the one who was hurt, it's going to be emotional. You're going to want to be mean, and I'm not saying that you should be nice and friendly, so try to go on a more neutral as possible route. Trust me, the conversation will not go anywhere if you spend the entire time throwing your near ancient passed relationship at them, so just shove that down and focus on what's happened since. This is where it gets good, because while in a perfect world you'll both be better than you were back in the past. Chances are, and you're going to like this if you had any doubts before, you are most likely doing better than them. My guess on why this is: because karma is real and finally got them back for how you were treated. Anyway, this conversation, if you can handle it like the basic adult you are, will give you some closure to the hurt you felt because of that person and your relationship with them.