So to my future husband, my only prayer for you is that you are you. I don't have these unrealistic images of who you are and who I want you to be. It would never last if I did. I just want you to be the best version of yourself.
You see, I already love you, you wouldn't be my future husband if I didn't. So don't strive to be who everyone else wants you to be, strive to be who you want to be.
With that said, it doesn't mean I don't have expectations, believe me, I do. It just means that if you are my future husband then you will have already met them. You will already be my best friend by the time we are getting married. You will already be honest and compassionate. You will already be funny and playful. You will already love me and a God if you please. But that's the thing, you wouldn't be my future husband if you weren't those things. So under no false pretenses would I ever pray that you were perfect nor that you be like every good man in the Bible.
I don't love you in spite of your many flaws, I love you because of them.
I love you because you are you.
I want you to make mistakes, have fun, love life, do things you never thought you would do. Because each step, or miss-step, you take makes you-you and it brings you closer to me.
I want to hear all your embarrassing stories, all your mistakes, all your deepest darkest secrets at 3 a.m. when we can't quite let our brains drift into dreams because I have mine too.
I pray that you will be you and not try to be like anyone else because I already love you.
I hope you love your flaws just as much as I do.
Truly loving someone is not about loving their good side. It is not about when they are like Paul, Joshua, Abraham, Jonathan, David, Solomon, Peter etc. It is about loving their darkness just as much as their light. Truly loving someone is loving them because they are not perfect. Truly loving someone is loving them because of their flaws, their weaknesses, their mistakes. Truly loving someone is accepting who they really are, good and bad, and choosing to be with them anyway.
To my future husband, you will never be perfect, and neither will I. So I pray that you are you. That you let all your color shines through and be the best man you can be. Because I love you for all that you are, not for who I want you to be.