Being the Mom Friend

Being the Mom Friend

Not a burden but an honor
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In light of Mothers Day I wanted to reflect on being the person who your friends openly call mom. The ones that not only take care of their friends when they partied a little too hard but the friends that also just are always are worrying about their friends and somehow always have exactly what you need, a granola bar or insane advice. I am this friend and I also have friends who are like this. I enjoy being called mom by my friends because I know they know I care about them! Plus this is never said as something rude it is always to make fun or just joking around. I have no need to become a mother soon and this is purely out of fun and just the fact that I do over prepare and worry about my friends like a mother may do.

I come prepared to every event, I have let go a little of this to try and not be completely a mother but I still have bandaids, usually a snack, hand sanitizer, and tissues. I make sure that my friends have what they need as well as reminding them of little things every once in a while. When it comes time for going places or big events like Relay For Life I have to stay up the night before packing so I know I have everything that someone may possibly need. I am a chapstick-aholic so that is always number one, then it would be tissues since I am often sneezing. I am such a mom friend right now I currently have a coupon to get 5 Capri-sun boxes for $2.00 off. I have worked my way up from a 2 Capri-sun coupon to 5! And I use them since I may take a box with me somewhere with friends or I just drink them but pushing that grocery cart around the store with 4 Capri-sun boxes really makes you feel like a mom.

When friends come to me for advice or telling me their problems I am always there to listen and to try to help them. I never try to show them that my problems are bigger therefore they should be helping me, I help them like a mom helps her children. I always try to help my friends in anyway, whether it is lending money for a little, or clothes, or just picking them up some food! I am there 100%!

I think it is important to be there for your friends as a mom sometimes, to make sure they make it home safe, they are fed, and they are happy. You do not have to order their food for them (you can...I have), and you do not have to be there to pick them up every night if you want to have fun but you should be there for them when they need it most! Take off from being the mom friend but hold that title with honor it is not cause you are lame and boring it is because you are dependable and caring! Being the mom friend is something I love being and honestly would put it on my resume if I could!

Mom friend for life!

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.
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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Danger Of Future Tripping

Making small goals can help you achieve a better tomorrow.

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The future is mysterious. Because of this elusive, unknown timeline we all face, why shouldn't we spend our time daydreaming of our distant goals and desires? These dreams have a tendency to taunt us in our seemingly boring present life. But it feels so wonderful to visualize ourselves in a better, distant state of absolute satisfaction and fulfillment in all aspects of our future. This visual that we create of a happier, healthier, and stronger self, is what we consider to be our ending goal; our definition of success.

So what is future tripping, and why is it detrimental to our future success and present satisfaction with our lives? According to Healthyplace.com future tripping is a "human condition of peering into the imagined future and anticipating the outcome," but what's wrong with visualizing our "perfect" future career, future lifestyle, and future home, with a wood burning stove and all? Well, before I completely bash visualizing a "better" you, I have to give it credit because it gives you a motivator. The issue is that people, including myself, get so caught up in what we want rather than what we need to do to achieve this version of ourselves and our life.

If we were to only focus on our ending goal, we are creating an existence of madness, and impatience. We need to begin making smaller goals and smaller effort in an effort to become better. A peer of mine said something the other day that struck home. In my own words, he said, "You can only be better than the person you were yesterday." What a simple, achievable goal to work on daily. It sets the bar low, making it easier to feel satisfied as you lie in bed at night and think, "What did I do today that made me a better me than yesterday?" In making these small, easily achievable goals daily, you are working towards this future "self" you wish to become. In other words, you must walk before you can run.

The sooner we begin rewiring our consciousness to confront our current life, self, and mini goals, the more attainable and realistic our far-off goals will become. Each day must be lived, that is a fact. If we are always thinking about tomorrow, or a year from now, or decades from now, we are wasting the precious opportunities of living, exploring, and growing that today offers. If we continue to romanticize and future trip, our levels of current satisfaction will begin to plateau.

I'd like to add and reiterate, that it is good to plan, and that it is good to have an overarching goal to work towards. College presents a perfect environment for structuring your goals (career/life path), and giving you daily errands (homework) that slowly, but surely, take you closer to your desired outcome.

So I hope that in reading this, you will start to catch yourself from future tripping in those moments of current disappointment and make a goal to make tomorrow better.

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