What is love?
There are all different kinds of definitions for it, everyone feels a different type of way. But here’s something that’s mutual: it’s not puppies and rainbows all the time.
Shocking, I know. I myself sometimes have trouble comprehending the fact that the love of my life and I will argue. Or that there will be tears and hurt. It’s hard to accept that harsh reality when you’ve been told your whole life that love is a fairy tale.
Don’t get me wrong, love is most definitely one of the most amazing feelings in the world. Kissing my boyfriend is one of my favorite things to do and I will never get tired of kissing his lips.
Love is many things, but it is not picture perfect.
If you’re in love, your relationship will grow. You’ll be able to spend time apart from each other. You’ll be able to not want to have your hands all over one another 24/7. You’ll be able to live your separate lives, but together.
Like I said, you're going to argue. It's scary, but it's going to happen. Did you know though that if you're truly in love, your arguments will only make you stronger? (Communication is key people).
Love is not getting constant attention from your partner, instead, it’s spending time together in the same room doing different things that make you both happy. Love isn’t getting butterflies or breathless moments when they walk in the room every single time.
Love is staying up to rub their back because they’re sick and can’t sleep even though you have to get up early to work the next day.
Love is staying in the bathroom while they’re puking at 2 am, even though it’s so gross because they drank a little too much when they were out with their friends that night.
Love is making compromises about things, even if you don’t understand what the big deal is. You understand that your partner is feeling some kind of way, so you compromise so you’re both happy.
Love is surprising them with their favorite kind of coffee from Dunkin’ when you’ve known they had a bad day.
Love isn’t about spending every waking moment together, staring and hanging all over each other all the time. Love isn’t about the perfect prince (or princess) charming walking into your life, sweeping you off your feet, and you forever being happy and smiling without a care in the world.
Love is hard. It’s crazy, chaotic, passionate, amazing, blissful, and frustrating at the same time. You’re going to fight, you’re going to have nights where you cry. It’s going to happen sadly, but at the end of the day, if you can both get into bed and cuddle each other and still say “I love you” and mean it; that’s what real love is.
Don’t expect to wake up one morning with your own house, a dog, a Range Rover, married to the love of your life, and just living your life happily. That’s not going to happen, at least not right away.
Great things don’t come easy and things don’t magically get better when you fall in love, but if it’s worth it, you’ll fight to your death for it. That’s when you know it’s true love and not the “flawless love” fairy tale that everyone perceives it to be.
