A Rant On F**kboys, From A Guy

A Rant On F**kboys, From A Guy

They ruin everything!

Pretty much everyone is familiar with "F**kboys" at this point, those college aged men who wear expensive clothes, have a nice smile, are all about talking to girls, but eventually get exposed for who they truly are: unintelligent, dimwitted, and selfish characters. If you've ever been to a college frat party, or a Thursday at a bar, you see f**kboys everywhere, planning a way to woo their next girl by acting all confident while drinking copious amounts of beer and taking shot after shot of (usually very cheap) liquor. They can be quite an interesting and loud bunch when in packs.

Honestly, I couldn't care less about a bunch of simple alpha males going nuts and being the life of the party. However, there is one thing about the typical f**kboy that drives me nuts to the point where I literally can't stand to be around f**kboys anymore. It is, the large frequency of f**kboys out there, paired with the emotional damage f**kboys can cause by objectifying and possibly even taking advantage of women, can cause the false assumption that "all guys are the same."

Now, before I get ahead of myself, I want to make something clear. Don't think that I'm just some frustrated hopeless romantic who's taking it out on other guys. While it is true that it's been quite some time since my last relationship, I am single mostly by choice, and only want to pursue something if someone truly special comes along. Those kind of people are rare.

Still, as a guy who HATES seeing women being taken advantage of, and as a guy who wants women, or anyone for that matter, to feel comfortable being around me, I can say the f**kboys pose a huge challenge to the decent men of this world. This is because over time, f**kboys have evolved to look more and more like nice people on the outside. For example, their wardrobe has been on point as of late. Often times, I find myself in a social setting being well-dressed, and when talking to people, particularly women, I often get a "You're actually a lot nicer than I thought you were going to be when I saw you." Today, simply DRESSING NICE can get you mistaken for a f**kboy.

Another way the f**kboy has evolved is through the art of pretending to be emotionally intelligent. In most cases, emotional intelligence is a sign of wisdom and maturity, so why wouldn't someone look for that in anyone their friendly with? Many f**kboys have a script of things they ask to make them seem sensitive and sophisticated even though they're not. They'll ask things like "How've your brother and sister been lately?" or "Where did you get that awesome bracelet?" These are questions with substance that encourage discussion rather than just "Uhhhh, so....um.....wanna make out?" F**ckboys really are chameleons.

So how can the women and decent men of the world stop F**kboys from roaming around? Well, that's the one problem. While there are obviously things we can do to make sure a woman is never taken advantage of, these isn't really much we can do to eliminate the f**kboys themselves. It's not like one day they'll wake up and decide not to be f**kboys. All we can do is learn to recognize f**kboys. For women, that means trusting your gut and making sure the guy truly is respectful. For decent men, that means keep being respectful, but be more confident. F**kboys have all the confidence in the world, so if we're more confident, we can throw them off their game, and become great partiers ourselves who are fun and crazy, but also RESPECTFUL TO WOMEN.

I wrote this because I have been perceived as a f**kboy by a few people as of late. I looked very sharp wardrobe wise and my conversation skills seemed a little scripted. I guess that set off the f**kboy alarm. If this is going to keep happening, we need to show these f**kboys that we won't stand for them anymore. How I long for a day when men and women can interact together no strings attached, but that's probably not happening anytime soon with sexism and sexualization everywhere. It's wishful thinking, but this was a rant, one I really needed to get off my chest.

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Everyone has a story that you know nothing about and it's hard to even know where to begin, so here's 100 questions to really open a conversation as to who someone is on their deepest levels.

If you truly want to get to know someone, you must delve much deeper than "favorites" and small talk.

Everyone has a story and if you're committed, that's something you should get to know and understand.

So, when in doubt, here's 100 questions to ask to truly begin to know who someone is on their deepest levels.

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  2. If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go and why?
  3. What are your top 3 goals in life? How do you plan to achieve them?
  4. If you had $10,000.00, what would you do with it?
  5. What is your deepest fear?
  6. What is your darkest secret?
  7. What is your all time favorite song?
  8. What is the motto you live by?
  9. Who is your biggest role model?
  10. If you could meet any deceased person for lunch, who would you meet and why?
  11. Who’s the first person you call when something incredible happens? When something awful happens?
  12. What is the most embarrassing thing that’s ever happened to you?
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  14. Describe your perfect date.
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  16. What’s your all-time favorite memory?
  17. Who’s had the biggest influence on you during your lifetime?
  18. Are you religious? Do you believe in any higher power?
  19. What gets you out of bed in the morning? What makes you happy to jump out of bed in the morning?
  20. Are you a morning person or a nighttime person?
  21. Would you ever compete on a reality show? Which show?
  22. What is grounds for ending a date immediately?
  23. Would you ever take back someone who’s cheated?
  24. Have you ever/would you ever ride a motorcycle?
  25. What’s something materialistic you could never live without?
  26. Do you shop at thrift stores?
  27. What do you want to be remembered for?
  28. What’s your favorite quote?
  29. What’s the most awkward situation you’ve ever been in?
  30. What is your spirit animal?
  31. What is your most unusual talent?
  32. What accomplishment are you most proud of?
  33. Do you volunteer anywhere? Why?
  34. Do you believe in any conspiracy theories?
  35. What’s your favorite takeout food?
  36. Did you enjoy your high school years? Your college years?
  37. Would you ever/have you ever done karaoke?
  38. What is something you avoid at all costs?
  39. What did you want to be when you were young?
  40. What’s one job you would never do?
  41. What’s the worst job you’ve ever had?
  42. What is your dream job?
  43. If you were lost in the woods, how long do you think you would survive? Why?
  44. Would you prefer to live in a large city or in the middle of the woods?
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  55. Do you like surprises?
  56. What is your favorite word?
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  58. Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
  59. Do you believe in second chances?
  60. Do you have any regrets? What’s your biggest regret?
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  63. What are some personal “rules” you never break?
  64. If your childhood had a smell, what would it be?
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  66. What are the top 3 things on your bucket list before you die?
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  70. What is your alcoholic beverage of choice?
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  73. What are some of your insecurities?
  74. What are some of your pet peeves?
  75. Do you speak any other languages? Are there any languages you want to learn?
  76. What 3 qualities do you value most in a person? What 3 qualities do you admire most in a person? Why and why?
  77. What songs bring back memories for you? What memories and why?
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  79. What social media are you on? Why are you on it?
  80. What enriches your life more than anything?
  81. What is your definition of “home”?
  82. When you’re incredibly stressed, what do you do to calm down?
  83. Have you ever shot a gun?
  84. How do you feel about the military?
  85. How close are you with your family?
  86. Would you ever go on a blind date? Who would you allow to set you up on a blind date?
  87. Who would you trust with your life?
  88. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live? Why?
  89. What is your definition of “love”?
  90. Why do you think you are on this earth? What is your purpose in life?
  91. What was the worst time of your life? The best time?
  92. Do you want to have kids? Why or why not?
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  94. Do you have any phobias?
  95. Are you a dog person or are you a cat person?
  96. Do you take long or short showers? Or baths?
  97. What style do you want to decorate your first apartment/house?
  98. How do you feel about sex before marriage?
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What My Long-Distance Relationship Taught Me

No one expects to find themselves in an LDR, but it can lead to valuable life lessons.

The summer going into my freshman year of college I fell in love with an amazing guy. He makes me laugh, supports my goals, and reminds me to not take life too seriously. We knew we did not want things to end after just one summer. Unfortunately, his school was six hours away from mine. So, we decided to try long distance.

Dating long distance was a situation I never anticipated being in, but one that I was willing to give a shot. A year and a half later and we now go to the same school. We are lucky enough to see one another every day, something we do not take for granted. Although our days of dating from a distance are in the past, I still reflect on the valuable lessons our LDR taught me.


Ask anyone who knows me and they will tell you, patience is not one of my virtues. However, being in a long-distance relationship challenged me to develop this trait. Patience helped me deal with the discomfort of living so far apart in a way that best suited my relationship. This self-control taught me that when life gets tough, having the ability to look into the future is valuable. My boyfriend did not run on the same schedule as me so finding the patience to accept that truth allowed us to come up with solutions to any problems that arose.


Communication is essential to any LDR. Effective communication is much more than being able to talk though; it is also the ability to listen and understand others. Thankfully with today’s technology, it is easy to connect, whether that be through Facetime, text, or social media. Setting times to be in touch gave us something to look forward to and assured that we were keeping up with what was happening in each other's lives. Additionally, learning to address and resolve problems and conflict over distance prepared us to deal with future challenges in-person.


You cannot have a relationship without trust, let alone a happy and fulfilling one. Trust is a two-way street, but when built it results in a tight, strong bond. It means you show mutual respect for each other’s boundaries, resolve conflicts in healthy ways, and show consideration and care. When you live hundreds of miles apart, trust is more important than ever. You cannot control who your partner spends time with or where they go, so you must trust that their words and behaviors will match up.


When you are in a long-distance relationship, finding interesting ways to do new things together can be difficult. Care packages, virtual movie dates, and surprise visits are just a few ways to make memories. By winter break of my freshman year, my boyfriend and I were both anxious to see one another. To add excitment to our reunion, I told him that I had an exam Friday afternoon and would not be home until Saturday. In reality, I finished my exams Monday afternoon. Nothing compared to the look on my boyfriend's face when I showed up on his doorstep Tuesday morning, four days earlier than he expected to see me. It is a memory we fondly look back on to this day and goes to show the difference a little creativity can make.


Commitment is a belief in the permanence of a relationship. Unlike love, it is a conscious decision. Neither one of you will always get your way. Disagreement is inevitable, but the conflict is optional. Finding ways to compromise will help you both to see things eye-to-eye. All relationships will have their ups and downs, but commitment will get you through it.

There will always be people who doubt whether your LDR will work, but what is important is that you trust and respect one another. Long distance is not easy, but as the saying goes, the things we have to work for are often the very things most worth having. In the end, a long-distance relationship can teach you a great deal about yourself and your partner and ultimately strengthen your relationship.

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