Not telling your friends everything is okay.
Some would consider this secrecy. "Secrecy" has a negative connotation, suggesting sneaky, shady behavior. I can agree; if you're keeping secrets that will hurt someone else, then secrecy is negative. However, if you're keeping secrets that only involve you, then I consider this privacy. Maintaining a private personal life is okay. Not everyone needs to know the intimate details of your day-to-day life, not your friend, your best friend, or your best best friend.
I love knowing about my friends' lives, but I don't expect them to tell me every detail. Similarly, I enjoy updating them about my life, but certain aspects of my life are better left unsaid. I often keep information private until I find the perfect time to share it. Then I need the right person to tell; there's always one friend I'm more comfortable talking to about a particular subject than another. I talk to some friends about my family, many about boys, and others about school. I have friends that are better at just listening to me than offering advice and vice versa. On the other hand, sometimes I'm never comfortable enough to say anything, so I don't. It's as simple as that.
If you ever suspect someone will judge you for your decision, don't tell them. Whether the consequences of that decision were good or bad, you're the one who has to deal with them. To put it simply: what they don't know won't hurt them. Your life is yours, and no one should make you think differently.
The most important thing to remember is that you don't need a reason to not divulge the details of your life. Maybe you need time to accept what's happened, or maybe you just want to have a little privacy. Any reason is valid. When it comes to friendship, knowing everything is unimportant. What matters is if your friend is supportive and caring, and anyone who decides to be anything other than that isn't worthy of hearing about your life.
Sharing your person life with someone is a courtesy, not a necessity. Next time you feel sorry about hiding something from your friend, don't. There isn't any reason to feel that way.
