Every girl has the list, am I right, ladies? It’s the list of qualities and characteristics that the “perfect” guy will have. It may not be a physical list but I promise you we all have a mental list. As we meet guys we check off the mental boxes as we get to know them and they meet more criteria. However, if they don’t meet criteria as we get to know them, we dismiss them as a potential boyfriend and move on. Now I know nobody is perfect by any means, but these qualities would make them pretty close to it.
Here are some of the qualities on my mental list that I feel are important all around to most girls:
1. Humor
A guy with a sense of humor is so attractive. I love to laugh and I love to make people laugh. Not only does he need to have a sense of humor, but he needs to understand my humor. 75% of the things that come out of my mouth are sarcastic, so he needs to understand that as well as be able to fire it right back at me.
2. Honesty
You’ve heard it before and I’ll say it again, a relationship is nothing without honesty. If you can’t be honest with your significant other, there is no foundation for that relationship and it will not last. Who wants some sketchy and untrustworthy guy to be their husband? Not me, that’s for sure.
3. Loyalty
I am a very loyal person. I’ve had the same best friends since I was 12 years old and they would back me up on this. Loyalty is a quality that I believe isn’t very common anymore and if I could find that in a guy, that would be awesome. Not only loyalty in our relationship, but loyalty to friends, family, and those who trust him.
4. Kindness
There is nothing more attractive to me than a kind man. I could not care less about the “bad boy” stuff and if you ask me, that whole “nice guys finish last” thing is a load of baloney. I don’t want some rule-breaking, loudmouth, terrifying guy to be my husband. I want the guy that picks up trash when he sees it, holds the door open for strangers, (and me) and brings me chocolate when I’m stressed out.
5. Caring
While being kind and being caring are pretty similar, there’s a difference between them for me. I think caring is more of a personal act. A caring guy is the guy that goes out of his way to take care of his friend's pets while they’re out of town or sit out of something he wanted to do so that someone else can have the fun. Being a caring person is sometimes putting others' needs above your own.
6. God-fearing
My faith is extremely important to me and I want it to be important for my future husband as well. My pastor once said something that has stuck with me ever since. He said, “Instead of asking God who you’re supposed to date or who you’re supposed to marry, run toward God with all you’ve got and look to see who’s running right next to you.” Simple but so powerful.
