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Embrace The Struggle

Love others enough to let them go

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When life gets comfortable, it’s sometimes difficult to change habits. While we seem happy in the comfort of normality that our lives have accepted, we tend to grow more through the difficulties we face. It’s important to do things for yourself. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for loving others well and going above and beyond for smiles, however, sometimes you need to prioritize you. Don’t forget to take care of yourself and to love yourself intentionally. Do things for you: go on a hike, go watch a movie, practice self-care.

In college, it seems as though everyone is looking out for themselves. You will have your heart broken, you will be let down and you will be disappointed…MULTIPLE TIMES. Through these struggles, continue to love others well. Show your strength through grace, forgiveness and love. Understand that not everyone will love you the way you love them, and that is okay. Love them anyway.

You will be let down by those closest to you. This is normal; love them anyway. Sometimes people, including you and I, need to experience life alone. Sometimes we need to find the clarity we didn’t know we were missing. Be patient, don’t put pressure on the process and enjoy the ride. Allow self-growth and life progression. Let people leave you, need you, and love you on their terms. Offer your support and love when warranted, but make sure you do you while they’re doing them.

Again, people will disappoint you, time and time again. Let them find themselves on their terms, on their time, at their pace. We only have one life to live and we should do everything we can to support self-progression in those we love. Sometimes, someone you love will choose to continue on a path of life that doesn’t include you. While this really hurts, let them do this.

Be kind, caring and genuine in your intention to let them go. Relationships, friendships and mentorships will, unfortunately, fade during your time in college. Be someone who is optimistic about your future and the future of those you care for. Let them do them, so you can do you. This will help you grow into the person you’re meant to be.

Allow yourself and your loved ones the time to find themselves, and grow for themselves. Don’t pursue someone that doesn’t want to be pursued. If someone wants to leave your life, let them remove themselves. Give them support, respect and encouragement.

While they’re doing them, you do you. You continue to support others the way you do. You welcome the new opportunities that may come to you. You open your heart to new people, new experiences and new connections. You be unapologetically you, whatever that definition may be.

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” – C.S. Lewis.

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