The Problem With Snapchat

The Problem With Snapchat

Snapchat was not meant to take the place of picking up the phone and calling somebody when you want to have a deep conversation.

I had a Snapchat for most of high school, I then deleted it for several reasons. I went almost two whole years without snapping until I got to college where I noticed that everybody was on Snapchat on the way to class, during class, after class, and even while getting ready in the dorm bathrooms (not even kidding.) So I decided to give Snapchat another shot. This time I only lasted about two months until I kissed my Snapchat goodbye forever.

When it came to Snapchat in college I noticed several problems that lead to kissing my account goodbye. The first problem was that everybody is constantly on Snapchat. I was especially guilty of this. I constantly checked stories and snapped my friends 24/7. I was on it so much that I knew what everybody was eating, exactly how much they drank when they went out, where exactly they were, who they were with, and so much more. I knew everything about everybody because I was constantly loading and reloading my Snapchat. This was a problem for two reasons, the first being that I wasn’t enjoying the people around me as much as I should have been because my face was glued to checking in on the people who weren’t even around me.

The second problem was the fact that we all seem to Snapchat everything. When I said that I knew what everybody was eating, how much they drank, and exactly who they were with, I wasn’t kidding. For some odd reason we feel the need to share everything with everybody, especially on Snapchat. I was guilty of this and I don’t know why I found so much pleasure in sharing every little thing that I was doing because honestly, who cares? Since deleting my Snapchat I found myself having more conversations with people face to face because my face wasn’t glued to my phone trying to snap artsy pictures of my food.

And that’s another problem with Snapchat. It seems to me that now people feel that it is okay to go to dinner with friends and instead of engaging in meaningful conversation, we choose to snap pictures of our food and Snapchat the friends that aren’t even at dinner. If you don’t believe that people do this just low key watch a table of girls when they go to dinner together and I promise you will see at least one of them take a selfie that will no doubt be on their story or sent to a friend. Since deleting my Snapchat I realized just how rude it is to be snapping away while at dinner with friends, family, and classmates. I’ve also found that people feel that sending a snap with one sentence at a time counts as a form of solid communication but newsflash, Snapchat was not meant to take the place of picking up the phone and calling somebody when you want to have a deep conversation.

Don’t get me wrong, Snapchat can be a good thing at times but I personally feel that there are times when it can be a problem. Imagine what the world would be like if we put down our phones and had meaningful conversations at dinner, if we didn’t care so much about what everybody else was doing, and if we didn’t feel the need to post pictures of every little thing. Since letting go of my Snapchat I have learned that I worry more about myself than I do about others, I pay more attention in class, and I try more and more to not check my phone and enjoy the time that I have with the people that I love because that means way more to me than checking in on what everybody and their brother is doing.

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To The Broken-Hearted, Take A Moment And Breathe

There’s always sunshine after rain.

To the broken-hearted,

They say a heartbreak can make you stronger, so why does it make you feel so weak?

You meet someone new and he makes you weak in the knees. You can’t help but laugh around him, and let loose. You become best friends then all of a sudden you’ve fallen in love with his smile, and the look he gives you. Everything is going great, meeting the families, enjoying holidays, and meeting friends. Then the storm comes and all you are doing is arguing over the tiny things, except this time someone ends it. The tears won’t stop flowing from your eyes and the song you love so much makes you mad.

Take a moment and breathe.

One day it won’t matter. I know it hurts now but in 20 years it won’t. You have to grow as a person from this heartbreak. Take this time to figure out who you want to be in 20 years.

The thing about being a millennial is at the age of 18-25 all you’re thinking about is finding the right person to call your husband/wife, to live in the big farmhouse, with your three dogs, and two kids. But the main focus should be on YOU. If you’ve found that love, I am beyond happy for you, but for someone who is going through this now, I understand. All I wanted was to live with my boyfriend and make it, but we both had some growing to do. Not physically but emotionally and mentally. You cannot be with someone if you are not with yourself first. You cannot give away love if you do not have that type of love invested in yourself.

It’s hard to move on, so don’t move from guy to guy or girl to girl. Take pride in yourself. Prosper at your job or in school. Dress up and go out with friends, or just dress up and go to Walmart. Stop looking for love in places unless it’s in you. You’re still young and have a lot to live for.

I’m not saying don’t look for love, because you should... but look for love in the little things. Go on a hike, join a gym, go to a park, or take a trip to the beach. Get up and do something instead of feeling sorry for yourself because, trust me, it does not matter how old you are or where you are, the one for you will be there. Give it time. But for now, get out of that dark place and find the light. There’s always sunshine after rain.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Broken Heart.

Ps. A lot of this is advice from my mom... she’s pretty good at this.

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So who’s the trickster behind this? Tipsy Elves was founded by, fellow Trojan, Evan Mendelsohn and Nick Morton. They weren’t always looking to gift people with the best ugly holiday sweaters ever. Evan and Nick both started off in different career paths. Evan was a lawyer and Nick was a dentist. They eventually teamed up for Tipsy Elves and were featured on Shark Tank, where Robert Herjavec invested in the company. Even though the holidays are over, you’re still in luck! Tipsy Elves has some pretty awesome winter wear and patriotic wear for the winter Olympics.

Lesson of this story? Santa is watching everywhere, even when you’re on Tinder.





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