The Pressure To Conform To Society's Standards Can Be Suffocating

The Pressure To Conform To Society's Standards Can Be Suffocating

Society's pressure to conform has been something many of us have known since we were little.

The pressure to conform is something that most of us have felt since we were old enough to know what perfection is. We've been pushed on all sides to try and be something we’re not, just to fit in with society’s standards.

Society wants us to be a picture perfect replica of some kind of doll. We have to be smart, beautiful, funny, talented, fit, sociable, and so much more, just to be considered worth someone’s time. It's such a toxic environment to live in.

I’ve known people who drove themselves close to being insane just trying to fit in. I've seen people change their opinions in a second to match those around them. I've seen people break down over things they couldn't control, just wishing that they weren't different.

Being different is a good thing. If we were all the same, how would we know what we like? How would we make anything of ourselves?

Society doesn't always view it that way, however. They don't want us to do anything that will draw attention to ourselves. They don't want us to ever break the perfect little mold we've been put in. If we ever do, if we ever speak out against anything or even just try to be ourselves, there's practically a revolt.

I’m sorry if this offends anyone, but I’m happy with who I am. Yes, there are things that I’m insecure about, but I’m never going to change myself or try to force myself to fit someone else’s standards. I am who I am and I do what I do for myself, not for anyone else and especially not for society.

No matter what the people around you say, you are beautiful. You are amazing and worth so much and you are going to do great things. Pressure from society can be intense, but don't let it change you. You'll regret it if you do.

Society is not the end all, be all. There are way more important people to think about than some random stranger. The people who are closest to you (whether those people are family or friends or people who just make you feel good about yourself) should be the only ones whose opinion you really care about, but even then, don't let it change yours, okay? There are times that my friends and I disagree on things, but I will not change to fit them. Sometimes disagreements are a good thing.

Society will never change who I am. I will never conform to fit their standards or change myself to fit into a small mold. I genuinely hope that anyone who reads this article does the same.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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I Used To Think Height Didn't Matter, But Maybe It Really Does

I've come to a conclusion


I've had my fair share of boyfriends in the past. A common theme in my past choices of boys is that they were all an inch or two taller than me or the same height. Now, I am a little on the taller side considering that the average height for a woman in the US is 5 feet 4 inches tall. I'm not saying all the tall boys belong to all the tall girls and the shorter guys should stick with shorter girls, but I do think there might be something behind all this madness.

My reasoning for this is simple: I've been in an amazing relationship with someone who is fairly taller than me. Is this reason totally irrational and have no sort of concrete evidence for this argument? Yes, totally, but hear me out. All my other relationships haven't been this good or even had the potential to be this good. Is it a coincidence that they were all shorter? I think not!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with boys who are under 5'9''. There are some nice ones who probably don't talk to 5 other girls while you're dating, I just never happened to come across one back when I was in the game. I just find it interesting that I've been in a really healthy relationship for awhile now with someone who is over 6 feet tall.

Many amazing relationships have happened between all different types of people, no matter the height. It's just if you are having problems with boys who are under 6 feet, you may have some thinking to do.

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