The Power Of Validation. Wanting To Be A Princess Is Cool.

The Power Of Validation Is More Important Than You Could Ever Imagine

Differences in goals shouldn't mean disregarding someone else's dreams and desires.


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One of the things I've talked about with my therapist is how difficult my life has been because as a child I was always told I couldn't do anything I wanted to do when I grew up. There was no encouragement; no sitting down and mapping out how I would achieve my dreams.

Though I never had the dream to be a Princess when I grew up, had I received this kind of encouragement for being a writer, maybe I would've had more success in the literary field.

I feel like people take the power of validation for granted. A certain relentless and fearless powers come from being denied, but the different kind of power, the courage, and inspirational powers come from being cheered on.

Believing in someone else's dream also takes respect. You have to respect someone else's path before you encourage it. Otherwise, it just feels like patronization.

In this world of feminism showing women that they don't need men to complete them, there are still a few of us who want the Disney Princess love stories we were raised on. For someone to show respect by advocating the empowering of the wishes of a little girl who voices this desire is extremely commendable.

I see too many dreams like this dashed in current times because one person follows a more traditional path than someone else wanted to. I think its okay to live in a society where some want to be princesses and princes and others want to be activists and social justice warriors. All these paths of life are valid and should be treated with respect from all sides.

Living in a world where everyone is exactly the same and are all working toward the same goal would be a true zombie apocalypse. I mean think about it: an entire world of women completely disregarding men so they won't be patronized and taken care of would not only stop the population from expanding, but I feel like it would drive men to behave even more violently due to frustration — which would end the human race altogether!

I also loved the post shared above because as someone who is more traditional than not, I see a lot of disrespect aimed at these kinds of dreams and desires. I see massive disrespect thrown at anyone who is Christian, anyone who is Catholic, anyone who is Muslim, anyone who wants to be married, anyone who is pro-life, anyone who is monogamous, and just anyone who wants or practices ANYTHING traditional in or from life.

Now, I don't see traditionalism with rose colored glasses. One can definitely find harmful ideologies in everything that I've listed. However, disrespecting someone's history, beliefs, culture, and/or spirituality just because it's traditional is frankly just a shitty thing to do. I feel like I have just a much right to exist as those who are nontraditional.

Can you imagine how crushed the hypothetical daughter from the original post would have been if she'd been told how unrealistic her dream was? How she should want something better for herself than just being some princess? By showing her dream respect, an entire world of possibilities has opened up for her — whether she grows up a traditionalist or nontraditional. May more people start to respect the traditional dreams and desires of the world, as well as nontraditional.

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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