The Power Of Self-Awareness Is The Key To Happiness

The Power Of Self-Awareness Is The Key To Happiness

You can't find true happiness without self-awareness.


I made it a goal of mine to be more self-aware in 2019, and I've become so much happier because of it.

Self-awareness is something I never paid much attention to because it was never something I thought I struggled with.

At the start of the new year, when I was feeling super inspired by the classic "new year, new me" posts I decided I would pay extra attention to myself in 2019. This didn't mean I was going to give up all my other obligations to work on myself, it meant I would make it a conscious effort to be mindful and check in with how I was feeling.

This is when I realized that I was not very self-aware.

I thought I was, I pretended to be but I wasn't truly, authentically aware of my personality and emotions.

Self-awareness is so important to master while you're carving the path for the rest of your life.

Being self-aware means knowing your strength and your weaknesses, analyzing your beliefs and figuring out what motivates you.

My thoughts had been contacting each other for so long but it was time for me to figure out what was important to me, and separate that from what was important from those around me.

Self-awareness allows you to grow in the best way. I've always considered myself an empathetic person but since developing self-awareness I've been able to foster better personal and professional relationships in ways I never had in the past.

Being self-aware allows me to clearly see other people's perspectives on issues, without taking them on as my own in an attempt to please someone. I'm able to take feedback without viewing it as criticism.

Having a better understanding of myself has helped me grow as a person. I am at peace with the past because I've reevaluated times where I only viewed myself as a victim.

There is no changing the past and I no longer want to.

I've learned that there is strength in forgiveness, of both yourself and others.

I've accepted that I have made mistakes, but I have also learned from them.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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If Someone Compliments How You Look, It's OK To Reply With 'I Know,' Self Confidence Is A Way Of Life

Cause honey, you do know!


I recently uploaded a video of me standing in front of a floor length mirror while zooming in on the overly messy room around me with the caption "It be like that sometimes." The video was posted with the intention of bringing humor to the messy state of the room. However, I also knew I looked good in the video so it was also a slight "flex."

This video caused several messages to be sent to me talking about how good I looked. Me, knowing that I looked good, replied with "I know." The recipients apparently did not appreciate this response since it was not your typical "awh, thanks *shy smile emoji*" so I then received various messages from both genders ranging from "you go girl!" all the way to, "nvm you don't look that good."

This brings me to my point, if someone looks good and you have the desire to express to them how good they look, DON'T BE UPSET WHEN THEY HAVE CONFIDENCE IN HOW THEY LOOK.

If someone knows they look good and shows how confident they are in their looks, be happy for them, uplift them, and support them, but do not be upset when they show you they don't need assurance from you on how they look. Almost everyone likes to receive positive comments on their appearance, it is just human nature to want acceptance from those around you. But if someone shows that you're response and opinion doesn't matter to their perception of themselves, then don't be upset.

It takes an extreme amount of hard work and dedication towards your own self-growth to rely on others appeal of you in today's society. It requires hours and hours of continuous self-affirmations, self-awareness, self-care, and so much more. So when you see that someone has worked to achieve this confidence in themselves, don't you dare be upset at them. They have worked hard and deserve to be able to feel good about themselves. Deal with it.

For the people that are still posting in hopes of receiving positive assurance from other people, learn to love and appreciate everything about yourself for the simple reasons that you are you. You don't need assurance from anyone else!

So the next time you start receiving all the compliments on how good you look, I urge you to reply with "I know." You'll find out who are the real people you need to be accepting compliments from. And if they reply with, "just kidding" or "nevermind," don't even bother giving those peasants a reaction. Just block them. Cause you don't that negativity in your life, honey. You keep doing you while loving every part of you!

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