To The People Who Say Friendship Trumps Politics, Check Your Privilege

To The People Who Say Friendship Trumps Politics, Check Your Privilege

It's not, for most of us at least.

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With the election season in full swing these past few weeks, there has been a lot of debate, especially between us millennials. This is normal, of course, as the debate tends to stir interest in the issues. But, this time around I have noticed the same bad takes circulating social media. The usual "I don't care about politics" tweets pop up but one particular statement has struck a chord with me recently. A large number of people think that differing political views — polar opposite views, mind you — should not impact or end a friendship. This is framed as an unpopular opinion but it appears to come up rather frequently.

So, to the people who believe that politics shouldn't determine a friendship,

This opinion obviously comes from a place of a privilege. If you think that a Trump supporter and left-wing person can peacefully be friends, then you must have a different definition of friendship. A friendship in which both of you have conflicting views on basic human rights, government control and even the current administration as a whole means that you're living in a bubble of privilege.

Newsflash: being racist is definitely a dealbreaker, not just someone being "sensitive."

Not letting these fundamental differences "divide" you may mean that you are not as wholeheartedly passionate about the issues as you may let on or that. If you're a Trump supporter tweeting about how much you hate liberals then post a picture of you in your MAGA hat next to your Democrat buddy, it's contradicting.

Be friends with whoever you please, of course. However, it's simply ignorant to imply that differing fundamental morals are not a good reason to end a friendship or relationship. Somebody else's politics don't affect you to the point where you feel unsafe around them? Great, but realize that that is a reality for someone else. Your closeted friend is bound to feel uncomfortable around someone who agrees with wanting to strip the rights of LBGTQ+ people, right?

Politics plays a large role in our society, has the biggest and most potentially dangerous impact on marginalized communities.

People are dying, people feel unsafe, scared, and hopeless. Realize that your political beliefs are a direct reflection of your moral values. Reexamine what it is that you really care about. And shut up about politics being too divisive. There's always going to be a divide between right and wrong, good and evil.

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11 Ways You Found The Cristina To Your Meredith

"We're friends, real friends, and that means, no matter how long it takes, when you finally decide to look back, I'll still be here."
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The term "my person" describes the relationship between two people who have reached the highest level of friendship. They're people who have ridden the roller coaster of life together for so long that their lives would be boring without each other. In "Grey's Anatomy," the characters of Meredith Grey and Cristina Yang describe each other as each other's "person." They have a perfect friendship. Everyone (including myself) strives to achieve a friendship like theirs. What is it like to have "your person?"


1. Your person will tell it like it is.

If you think that your new haircut looks bad or if that dress makes you look fat, your person is always there to reassure you that nobody cares.


2. Your person is always on your team.

Whether it's an argument between you and your parents or you and your boyfriend/girlfriend, your person will always be there. They will go to bat for you 10/10 times and they will always be there to have your back.


3. Your person will celebrate the small victories with you.

Did you go an entire day without crying? Awesome, let's celebrate! Did you eat something other than chocolate chip cookies for breakfast? That's wonderful! The small victories count the most.


4. They will listen to you, even when you are ranting about the craziest things.

Let's face it, we have all been there. When it's late at night and we're laying in bed, thinking of the world's hardest questions, and you start to think about crazy scenarios, your person is always there to listen.


5. People instantly think that you and your person are a couple.

You aren't a couple, you just understand each other on a much higher level, so people think that you guys are in a relationship. Just go with it.


6. Your person isn't afraid to tell you that they are embarrassed by you.

Everyone gets embarrassed about each other at one point or another. Most people just pretend that it doesn't happen. Your person is going to flat out tell you that your actions and the things that you say embarrass the crap out of them.


7. Your person isn't afraid to knock you down a few notches.

Just when you think that you are on top of the world, your person will come and pop the growing balloon known as your head. They aren't afraid to snap you back into reality.


8. They will build you up faster than they will tear you down.

Yes, they will bring you back to reality and tell you like it is, but they will also be the first one to encourage you and to tell you how wonderful you are.


9. Your person is not afraid to call your bluff.

They will call you out on your BS and make you tell them how you really feel, so they can help fix you.


10. You stick together no matter what.

Even though you get mad at each other, or don't speak for a few days, you will always stick together.


11. In the end, no matter what, no matter who comes in and out of your life, your person will always be your person.

Your person is there no matter what. They care when no one else does and they are always there to hold your hand.

Find your person and never let them go. They are your best friend, your worst enemy, and your biggest critic, but they know you better than you know yourself sometimes.

As for my "person," you know who you are. I love you and couldn't do life without you.

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Dear Young Voices Of America, Stand Up, Speak Up, And Do Something

Our time is now.

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Dear young voices of America, I think we can both agree that we are sick of being told we are America's future while simultaneously being told our opinions don't matter. Now I personally do not listen to the people that tell me I'm better seen than heard; however, I know there are people that are a little timider when it comes to raising their voices. I am here to encourage you to be loud and speak up on topics that matter to you. There is no better time than the present to make your voice heard. Whether you are advocating for change in your school or the government, your opinion matters and is relevant.

We are the future of our country. How are we supposed to evoke change and reform if we can't have our voices heard? I call bullshit and I think it's time to take action. Even if you're the first or only person to advocate for your cause, be that person. Don't be afraid of anyone that tries to stand in your way. The only person that can stop you from speaking up for yourself and your cause is you. No matter how many nos you have to hear to get a yes or how many doors you have to knock on to get someone to open up, never give up. Never give up on your cause, never give up on yourself or the people you're representing, just don't do it. There is someone out there that supports you. Maybe they're just too shy to raise their voice too. Be encouraging and be supportive and get people to take a stand with you.

It is never too early or too late to start thinking about your future or to take action. But don't hesitate to say something. The sooner you start speaking up, the sooner you have people joining you and helping you, and the sooner you start to see and experience change. So get up, make that sign, write that letter, make that phone call, take part in that march, give that speech. Do whatever you feel fit to get your point across. Shout it from the rooftops, write it on your profile, send it in a letter, ignore everyone that tries to tell you to give up. Maybe they don't understand now, maybe they don't want to listen, maybe they're afraid to listen, but the more you talk about it and help them understand what exactly you are trying to get across, they will join you.

Even when it feels like you have nobody on your side but yourself, I am on your side. I will cheer you on, I will march with you hand in hand, I will write letters and make phone calls and help you find your voice. My life changed when I found my voice and yours will too.

So dear young voices of America, the time is now. Your time is now. Don't be afraid of the obstacles that you may have to face. Someone is out there waiting for you, waiting to grab your hand and march on with you. As Tarana Burke once said "Get up. Stand up. Speak up. Do something."

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