If the holidays mark the beginning of proposal season where a variety of jewels litter our social media feeds, then spring marks the time when those photos will be replaced by pictures of white dresses, wedding hashtags, and more. The spring equinox is quite literally upon us, which means it’s time to move into the next season. No, I don’t mean spring.

I mean wedding season.

So. Wedding season. It’s a time when a lot of women get starry-eyed about the #ringbeforespring they’re waiting for. Others are excited to watch their friends walk down the aisle to their almost-husband, exchange rings, and be presented for the first time as husband and wife to their loved ones. It’s the time of year, again, where our calendars are populated with save-the-date cards and RSVP reminders.

But this wedding season is different because instead of simply attending the aforementioned affairs, I’m helping to plan a wedding.

There is so much that goes into the biggest party of your life, I’m learning. You work to please your guests, you concede to your future husband, and you endeavor to make everyone happy while wearing a beautiful white dress made of your childhood hopes and dreams. Okay, maybe it’s mostly designed out of white taffeta or silk, but that’s more or less the same thing.

With so many things on your to-do list as an engaged lady, it’s hard to focus on the fun. I mean, maybe it isn’t that hard to focus on the fun parts of wedding planning, however it’s really easy to get lost in the details. At least, the details that others are waving in front of your face (Read: your mother, your future mother-in-law, and assorted other well-wishers). It’s hard to negotiate with terrorists (aren’t there laws against this, or at least guidelines?) such as your mother, his mother, or others, but throughout the planning process, you’ll learn how to diffuse bombs, rescue hostages, and throw a tantrum big enough Bridezilla herself would be impressed.

So while the moms and company have been working on some of the finer details, I’ve been focusing on the “good time”. Many couples choose to personalize their wedding by offering a signature cocktail, and after I found this wedding cocktail generator I realized it was much easier to find the perfect cocktail for this wedding. Fortunately since I’ve known the bride far too long, I was able to easily answer the questions to help generate the perfect cocktail for her upcoming wedding.

Planning a wedding is much more stressful than I might have imagined, but with some of the finer details in the works, we can start focusing on the personalization of the ceremony, reception, and of course, the drink menu.

Cheers!