4 Phrases That Sum Up Today's Misconception of Love

4 Phrases That Sum Up Today's Misconception of Love

Here are a few phrases that have made us confused about what love is supposed to look like.
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I think one of the main reasons that people my age and younger feel so pressured to get into a relationship right now is partially because of the concept behind relationships that we've been taught since we were little. We've heard certain phrases and been told fairytales that essentially teach us that we won't be happy until we are with the loves of our lives. I'm not saying that I hate these phrases; I'm pointing out how they have affected those of us who are single- or at least how they have affected me. Here are a few examples:

"He's my better half."

This implies that you alone are a half, and your partner alone is a half. Unless you feel whole alone, you will always view yourself half as valuable as you really are. When God says that the two become one, He does not mean that He is bringing two halves together to make one whole; He's bringing two whole people together into one powerhouse of wholeness so that you can further complete His will.

Yes, you'll be able to do more, amazing things once you've been joined with God's partner for your life. Notice the comma. What you're doing when you're single is just as valuable to the kingdom as what you'll do with your spouse one day.

"She completes me."

Although I'm a firm believer in Christ creating us a partner that will make us want to better ourselves, our edification should never solely rest in human hands. Only God has the capacity to fill our voids, so God should complete you before you are in a relationship. He's not waiting for you to find somebody; He didn't create a person with the power to make you complete. Completion is in Christ alone.

"Your Prince Charming is on his way,"

or

"Just keep waiting for your Prince Charming."

(I don't know if there's some type of male-equivalent of this that guys are told.)

This is one of those phrases that put pressure on guys and makes them feel like they are on a mission to go and find their princesses. Also, this makes girls/women feel like there is someone out there coming for them if they just wait long enough. Listen, maybe it's just my personality but I'm not waiting on love. I have love already. I'm working while I'm being prepared for my future husband- not sitting around and counting down the days for him to arrive.

I pray that my future husband is working on himself and allowing God to work in him; I pray that he isn't spending his time searching for me. I don't think that you have to seek out God's will for your future spouse when you're already living in His will; I think that's a part of the plan that will come naturally.

I'm not an anti-romantic who thinks that these phrases are evil; I think they're cute as long as we remember that we weren't created to be completely dependent on a single human. I personally can't wait to post pictures of my future spouse and say things that let everyone know how emotionally dependable he will be, but I'm not going to paint him as someone who I depend on more than Christ.

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Why Girls Love The Dad Bod

If your man can rock the dad bod, he's a keeper.

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In case you haven't noticed lately, girls are all about that dad bod.

Girls have been dealing with body image issues since the beginning of time until recent (for those of you who consider yourselves to be "Thick thin") I hadn't heard about this body type until my roommate mentioned it. She used to be crazy over guys she claimed had the dad bod.

After observing the guys she found attractive, I came to understand this body type well and was able to identify it. The dad bod is a nice balance between a beer gut and working out. The dad bod says, "I go to the gym occasionally, but I also drink heavily on the weekends and enjoy eating eight slices of pizza at a time." It's not an overweight guy, but it isn't one with washboard abs, either.

The dad bod is a new trend and fraternity boys everywhere seem to be rejoicing. Turns out skipping the gym for a few brews last Thursday after class turned out to be in their favor. While we all love a sculpted guy, there is just something about the dad bod that makes boys seem more human, natural, and attractive. Here are a few reasons that girls are crazy about the dad bod.

It doesn't intimidate us.
Few things are worse than taking a picture in a bathing suit, one being taking a picture in a bathing suit with a guy who is crazy fit. We don't want a guy that makes us feel insecure about our body. We are insecure enough as it is. We don't need a perfectly sculpted guy standing next to us to make us feel worse.

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We like being the pretty one.
We love people saying "they look cute together." But we still like being the center of attention. We want to look skinny and the bigger the guy, the smaller we feel and the better we look next to you in a picture.

Better cuddling.
No one wants to cuddle with a rock. Or Edward Cullen. The end.

Good eats.
The dad bod says he doesn't meal prep every Sunday night so if you want to go to Taco Tuesday or $4 pitcher Wednesday, he'd be totally down. He's not scared of a cheat meal because he eats just about anything and everything.

You know what you're getting.
Girls tend to picture their future together with their guys early on. Therefore, if he already has the dad bod going on, we can get used to it before we date him, marry him, have three kids. We know what we are getting into when he's got the same exact body type at the age of 22 that he's going to have at 45.


So there you go. A simple break down of why girls everywhere are going nuts over this body type on males. We like it. We love it. We want some more of it. So here's to you dad bods, keep it up. Men, confidently strut that gut on the beach because while you stare at us in our bikinis we will be staring just as hard.

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Don't Let Your Fear Of Relationships Get In The Way Of Your Happiness

The line "It's not you, it's me," basically describes my life.

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So here it is. An explanation as to why social and dating lives can be a literal mess.

If you are anything like me, relationships are very difficult. Something about the possibility of hurting someone or being hurt is generally a big issue. Just the thought of hurting another person who has been nothing but wonderful to me is a daunting fear of mine that I can not seem to shake. Or being so in your head thinking you will be equally hurt at any given moment is even worse in some cases. The fear of getting attached to someone and then your entire world crashing during a break up is definitely scary.

Not to mention that even everyday anxiety can cause relationship issues. Anxiety comes in many forms. It definitely is not limited to just being nervous or having a panic attack. Sometimes anxiety is as simple as thinking about something for too long and before you know it, your heart is beating uncontrollably for what seems like no reason at all.

Recently I have been having a lot of these issues. The overthinking, confusion, and fear; overthinking about whether or not you and your S.O. are really going to work (when there are no reasons whatsoever that you wouldn't work); being confused about what you are or what you may possibly mess up; and if your anxiety and constant fear about relationships will eventually drive that significant other away. Whatever your tick may be, I am here to tell you that is not the end of the world.

If you are (for some reason) having any doubts or worries about your current relationship, talk to your boyfriend/girlfriend. DO NOT go throughout every single day constantly "wondering" and never give yourself any answers. The worst thing to do is trying to solve these problems (that may not really even be true problems) by yourself. Talking from experience, even if you don't want to talk to your SO about these thoughts, there is always someone willing to listen. Whether it be your best friend, your mom, whomever, these worries will not go away without talking them out.

Don't let your anxieties get the best of you. Majority of the time your partner is more than willing to hear you out instead of ignoring your concerns. Taking the time to explain where your head is at is good for the both of you. It allows you to vent what is on your chest and also gives your significant other a little insight as to what you are going through or thinking about rather than both of you being clueless about the other.

If you are someone who struggles with attachment and anxieties while dating, believe me, you are not alone. I, as well as MANY others, I'm sure, go through the same things. Without a doubt, I can tell whoever is reading this, nearly every couple goes through this at least once, if not more in their relationship. Don't fret, it is completely normal for this to be an experience for you and your partner.

So remember: Talk things out. Express yourself. And most importantly, don't worry unless you absolutely have to.

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