Growing up with a sister is a blessing in disguise. If you're fortunate enough to have a sister you know exactly what I mean by that. But, there were many times where you never would have considered her such a blessing in your life. We all have gone through phases with our sister that has led us to the relationship we have with them today. When you have a sister with a one to five year age difference, these moments were bound to happen between the two of you.
Up to about fourth grade your sister was your barbie bestie. Although your mom had to give many speeches about sharing with each other and even read books about sharing to you guys, you two would get along fairly well. Your favorite thing to do with your sister was show each other the designs you made on pollypocket.com. You would wave to her when your tap class was right next door to her ballet class and when your day camp groups passed each other at the pool. There would be a few fights but not enough to have it define a phase in your sisterhood.
From fourth to eighth grade your house was a battlefield. The slightest disagreement would set you guys off. Your babysitters would even complain to your parents when they got home. It would rarely get physical, but your words would burn holes through her. Your parents dreaded car rides because even if your leg accidentally grazed her leg you would hear her whining, "moooommm, tell her to move her leg, it's touching me!" If you're the older one you wold complain to your mom to tell your sister to leave your room when you had a friend over while your sister would cry to your mom that you won't play with her. Your parents would have to try everything to get you two to get along, even if they had to lock you guys in a bathroom together over night. Even through this phase, you would always want to punch anyone that hurt her and would still always defend her when she got into trouble with your parents.
When high school started, you realized that your maturity in school also meant having to be more mature at home. The fights died down, but your sister was at the point where she looked up to everything you did and started wanting everything you had. This would annoy you and it would lead to fighting but you also felt very flattered that you were becoming a role model. There was a lot of hormones involve since puberty was striking and your fights would be about sharing clothes and driving her everywhere. As you each started developing your individual hobbies and personalities you realized that you two could not be more different. This made you respect each other a lot more and made you guys a lot more supportive of each other's accomplishments.
Then, you go off to college and your sister is more depressed than ever before, even though she will go through lengths to deny it. The distance has only made you two closer and you condider your sister your best friend. She knows that whenever you come home she has to be prepared to be harassed with gossip and for her closet to be raided. Every other photo on your Instagram has her in it and you guys always tag each other in pictures that remind you of your inside jokes. You plan out Lizzie McGuire marathons whenever you visit. She calls you everyday to vent about mom and rant about Chuck Bass. You guys probably even have your maid of honor dressers picked out for each other and a floor plan of the apartment you want to share in New York.
And then you realize that all those ups and downs that you've shared with your sister was all worth having a sister like her.
