Compatibility plays a major role in determining the fate of a couple's relationship. Oftentimes, incompatibility leads to separation and divorce. Latest scientific research indicates that personality disorders can lead to turbulent relationships. These personality disorders originate from childhood hardships and parental negligence.
Surprisingly, the way you were raised by your parents and the overall environment in which you were brought up strongly influences your personality as an adult that goes hand in hand with the attachment theory in psychology. This, in turn, leads to the scientific discovery that personality disorders are driven by the 4 types of attachment styles: Secure, Avoidant, Ambivalent/Anxious, and Disorganized.
A person who experienced a secure attachment meaning that they were extremely close with one or both of their parents will grow onto forming mature and loveable relationships with people i.e., their S.O. Individuals who feel securely attached will be more relaxed and self-composed within their relationship implying that there will be amplified levels of mutual trust and compassion.
On the other hand, an ambivalent/anxious childhood focuses on the idea of uncertainty that some children experience when their parents are nurturing them for a few moments only to leave them stranded in the confines of loneliness for a long time. This confusion causes these kids to grow and develop into insecure adults who are always acting clingy, dependent, and overly-possessive over their partners. Hence, this becomes a troublesome issue between a couple because the latter is unable to embrace the feelings of freedom and peace of mind. That is to say, your personality contributes to the success of your relationship more than you think!
According to Professor Joseph Beeney and his colleagues from the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine, "Our results indicate people often have romantic partners with similar levels of attachment disturbance and interpersonal problems and that attachment styles and related behavior explains some of the association between PD severity and relationship satisfaction."
Apparently, it is not just incompatibility that can shake a relationship towards an abysmal decline, personality disorders also seem to exert a huge effect.
