To the person who has hurt my friend,
Whether you are an ex, a family member, a former friend, whoever you are… Just know if I could say something to you, I would.
I see them hurt and in pain, and it breaks me just as much as it breaks them.
The only emotion that comes the closest to describing how I feel when someone hurts my friend is frustration. I can see the pain in their face and all I want to do is to help them in any way that I can. Even though I know my words won't make it any less painful, I'm still going to try to keep them optimistic of the future. To remind them that this pain isn't permanent, even though it feels like it.
I am here to remind them that you are not worth their tears.
I always try to remind them that you were the one in the wrong. I want them to see how great they are, and not just see it but know it.
I just wanted to remind you that it's NOT okay to treat someone like they are less than you or like their feelings don't matter. It's NOT okay to give someone the wrong idea or to make them feel like they are unimportant. You have made my friend see themselves in a different, negative way and I am NOT okay with that.
The best part is, you have no idea what you've done.
You don't know what you did to them, you don't know how hurt they are, and you probably never will. You won't get to see what I see, and if I'm being honest, I don't think you could handle it. If you saw what you have done to my friend, you'd probably be surprised or confused. Thinking in your head, "I never meant to do this," or "I didn't know this would scar them."
I'm sure you didn't mean to do it, but you did. You have caused them to doubt themselves and everyone around them. You have made them self-conscious and damaged.
You have changed my friend forever.
It is your loss, losing this amazing person. My friend is an outstanding, wonderful, kind, intelligent human being that you have just removed from your life. It's your loss that you cannot see how amazing they are.
But lucky for me, I see it all the time. I see them at their best and worst. I am there to watch them succeed in life and relationships. The best part is I will get to witness them thrive without you. I will be there to remind them they got to this point in their life without you. They moved on from that pain and suffering you caused them so long ago, and I cannot wait for that day.
