Social media today feeds young minds with incredibly unrealistic expectations. Expectations of someone to make our life perfect in every way possible and this unfair idea that it is possible for a man to achieve even a glimpse of perfection. News flash-it is not real. There is no one (except Jesus, shoutout to him) who will ever live a perfect life. And that is okay. What social media forgets to show, is the beauty in making mistakes together, and being able to forgive.
That's right, I said it, forgiveness. You know that awful thing everyone avoids because "your significant other did the unthinkable." He just forgot to text you back, by the way, chill out a little. People today dread mistakes because social media makes us think if a man works hard enough, he can become "the perfect partner." The thing is, he has a life of his own to live. And why would we want to stop that as supportive partners? Who would we be to halt the opportunities he has to grow as a person. Isn't that the way we all learn, through mistakes? If we live out the idea that he should be fearful to ever make a mistake, how is he going to grow as a person, and more importantly, how is the relationship ever going to grow?
The fact is, everyone is going to make mistakes. We do it multiple times a day, everyday. Whether it be a small mistake or the one that makes sit down and question all your life decisions, we make them. But the positive side of that is we always grow from them. In some way, we learn a lesson for each of those mistakes. And I for one would like to have someone who is going to be there to tell me I messed up, and then show his support as I grow from that mistake. Who would I be to not expect myself to do the same for him? I would prefer a man who messes up and admits it, rather than him claiming and pretending he makes no mistakes. Through the admittance of human fault, it shows the recognition of room for growth as a person. I want someone who wants to continue to grow everyday because hey, I have a long way to go too.
So future man in my life, once in a while, please mess up. Please accidentally fail to hold the door for me. Please be late. Please forget to return my phone call. Please be a normal human being, because I much rather have to work for something real, than pretend I am living in perfection because of social media's standards. Please know in the bottom of your heart, when you mess up, I will be there ready to forgive because I am going to be so excited for you that you grew that much more as a person.
If you girls out there are happy recieving roses everyday with a giant teddy bear and pretending that is the definition of a perfect relationship, great. You keep on doing you. As for me, back in reality, my future man is going to mess up. And I am going to be so very happy when he does.
